Does revealing interest destroy attraction?

[ezekiel25.17]

I can generate attraction in women quite easily but I fear that once I actually reveal my interest, the girl will know that she can have me and lose attraction. After all, people only want what they can't have!

Anyway, I can see two solutions to this dilema and would be greatful if someone would let me know which is most accurate (maybe they both are), anyway here it is:

1. Once a high enough level of attraction has been established you can just ask her out in a straightforward manner and she will respond favourably - it's as simple as that.

2. A woman will lose attraction for you if you ask her out in a straigtforward way because the attraction is based on her thinking that you're not really interested in her. Once she knows for certain that you are interested, you become 'just another chump' and it's game over! This is true even if it seems like she is really attracted to you.

So which is it?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Depends on what type of woman you are dealing with. There is the type that believes EVERY MAN wants her and she is God's gift. Then you have the attractive woman with a lot going for her, who has low confidence/self-esteem. Obviously, you're "One Size Fits All" approach won't work the same way on both types, all the time.

You are starting to see some patterns and predictable behaviors. There is a lot more to each type of woman.

 

[slaog]

I can generate attraction in women quite easily but I fear that once I actually reveal my interest, the girl will know that she can have me and lose attraction. After all, people only want what they can't have!

Anyway, I can see two solutions to this dilema and would be greatful if someone would let me know which is most accurate (maybe they both are), anyway here it is:

1. Once a high enough level of attraction has been established you can just ask her out in a straightforward manner and she will respond favourably - it's as simple as that.

2. A woman will lose attraction for you if you ask her out in a straigtforward way because the attraction is based on her thinking that you're not really interested in her. Once she knows for certain that you are interested, you become 'just another chump' and it's game over! This is true even if it seems like she is really attracted to you.

So which is it?

It's OK to let a woman know you're interested but also let her know she has to play by your rules. Let her know you can walk away at any time if she starts misbehaving and let her know she's lucky to have you and other women want you too.


When I say "let her know" I don't mean tell her directly. It should be done using indirect communication.

 

[DonGorgon]

if that interest comes across as obsession and or desperation then yes... Tell her you like her but dont show it ever... women love inconsistency...

 

[Metacomet]

Tell her you like her but dont show it ever... women love inconsistency...

:rockon: Nice one. Guys who 'show' they like girls by buying them sh1t or being a door-mat are a dime a dozen. This is why you do not give girls cake and let them eat it too. They get fat and spoiled on it.

If you like a girl you'll show her in bed - and that's the message she needs to get. This is done with eye contact, body posture... leading her physiologically. Not following her or hanging on her.

Beyond that showing interest really is a complicated process that involves a whole bunch of reading. It's quite easy to tell if you've done it too early... and it's almost impossible to show interest too 'late'.

Ever have a girl wait months for you to approach? If they have interest in you they don't consider all that waiting around.

Make a girl wait for you and she simply doesn't care when you show interest - it will still affect her. Show it too soon and you're done.

If she has no interest level in you then any amount of 'revealing interest' will not help. You might say 'I played my hand too soon' when it's more a case of her getting bored and quitting the table.