Does personality even matter?

[Arete]

Being brutally honest, I am confused enough now that i can not say if you are a troll or have some sort of autism

not trying to smear you or anything, and hopefully I am wrong. Just what I feel from these ongoing back and forth about some topics that are quite straightforward for the very vast majority of guys in the world

and for some reason it feels that you are projecting the stuff that you lack into being the super most important things and that without them you are doomed

I also feel like he is a troll. I remember how he recommended a new guy to get hookers and switch countries to get even more hookers. I believe his logic was to get "more relaxed around women". Why would anyone write this on a forum like this? Makes no sense.

 

[Cheeky_James]

I”ve seen all kinds of stuff

Down syndrome couples , couples in wheelchairs, etc

what I usually don’t see is guys or women jumping that much outside of their looks rating, unless maybe there is in a club or something like that. But that usually is just hooking up, and usually is guys doing 2-3 points besides their looks rating

yep exactly. So ppl play in their own looks leauge.
And ‘personality ‘ is most likely a minimal factor in reality. It’s really Allpha vs Beta personality. Women will compromise on a dudes personality imo, as they know they will be able to control the show anyway , as they have the bigger social IQ and manipulation skills in any relationship.
They just make the guy THINK it’s his amazing personality initially. Let him think that. As they pull him , and not the other way around . all women are amazing actresses in that regard mate , is my opinion as an older guy

They run their Game on us.
And not the other way around.
They just let us think that WE have great ‘game’ cos they know we have fragile egos.

As men are ‘easy’ to women. The average male is quite dumb in comparison to the average female.

think about it…

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It matters a lot once you get past the first date or two. And even to a large degree on the first date, it can make the difference between something happening and nothing happening.

Looks get you in the door. Personality and other traits keep it from getting slammed shut in your face.

 

[Cheeky_James]

@BackInTheGame78


Well unless you are talking about an Alpha vs Beta type set of personality traits . I’d disagree.

but looks like I’ll have to agree to disagree with you all on this.

but thanks for the debate, it’s been very interesting.
Thread can be locked now I reckon.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

@BackInTheGame78


Well unless you are talking about an Alpha vs Beta type set of personality traits . I’d disagree.

but looks like I’ll have to agree to disagree with you all on this.

but thanks for the debate, it’s been very interesting.
Thread can be locked now I reckon.

You can disagree all you want, but I guess it depends on what your of relationship you are looking to have. If it's just to fvck then probably not so much. If it's an actual relationship that gets deeper into LTR territory then I'm not really sure what you are disagreeing with.

 

[Cheeky_James]

Tbh and ill try close on this one.

the only Game that I see working as a strategy outaide of improving looks & behaviour to appear more Alpha, is flipping the script on a woman so that she becomes the persuer and not the Persued.
the chaser and not the chasee.

I think most women are wired to chase and complete against other women for a man,

it’s the most effective kind of game imo outaide of being the alpha guy and setting up the Dom-sub dynamic,

those two strategies are the way to go imo,

 

[Divorced w 3]

If sexual desire is built in the mind, how could personality not affect attraction? This is a fundamental truth.

 

[Bigpapa]

Tbh and ill try close on this one.

the only Game that I see working as a strategy outaide of improving looks & behaviour to appear more Alpha, is flipping the script on a woman so that she becomes the persuer and not the Persued.
the chaser and not the chasee.

I think most women are wired to chase and complete against other women for a man,

it’s the most effective kind of game imo outaide of being the alpha guy and setting up the Dom-sub dynamic,

those two strategies are the way to go imo,

Dude, women rarely Chase. Especially if sex does not happen

even the ones that are way bellow you in terms of looks will not chase you. They would rather die than chase you

unless she is super anxious or something, but even then it is more a no than a yes

seriously, have no idea from where you get these ideas … for sure not from the field

 

[Cheeky_James]

You can disagree all you want, but I guess it depends on what your of relationship you are looking to have. If it's just to fvck then probably not so much. If it's an actual relationship that gets deeper into LTR territory then I'm not really sure what you are disagreeing with.

I tend to think that even in LTR territory , mens whole Perspective on this personality thing is incorrect as well. You should see the amount of b1tching women do w their girlfriends about their men. The women will slate each others BFs togehter on group chats. That’s what they are doing half the day on their phones.

they just smile and pretend to their men,
And one week of the month get hormones and are lovey -dovey. The other 3 weeks they are either neutral or a pain in the ass and openly agressive, in most relationships this occurs.

And also , to any guy is not yet a father -wait till she had the kids and watch the change . The mask falls
Off pretty fast then. Across the board. That’s a real reality check

 

[Cheeky_James]

If sexual desire is built in the mind, how could personality not affect attraction? This is a fundamental truth.

wrll different guys here are giving different definitions here as to what is that personality,
I can’t list them all.
But I’m saying it’s alpha traits /dominance traits.
Other guys saying it’s jsut confidence,
And other guys saying it’s rapport based and making women feel special .

so my take is a bit different and back to alpha male theory, or a guy that can prize himself or flip the script and make her chase him with game playing.
Maybe that’s Dark oersonality trait idk, probably.

I reckon the rapport based ideas of personality are not solid. And that confidence as a general term is not specific enough I guess,

it’s really looks + dominance traits in personality simply. Not rapport building skills and the other things guys chuck in. That’s not as important. Women will build the rapport.

I’m looking for a more specific definiton.of what actually works. With some good evidence to it,

 

[BackInTheGame78]

wrll different guys here are giving different definitions here as to what is that personality,
I can’t list them all.
But I’m saying it’s alpha traits /dominance traits.
Other guys saying it’s jsut confidence,
And other guys saying it’s rapport based and making women feel special .

so my take is a bit different and back to alpha male theory, or a guy that can prize himself or flip the script and make her chase him with game playing.
Maybe that’s Dark oersonality trait idk, probably.

I reckon the rapport based ideas of personality are not solid. And that confidence as a general term is not specific enough I guess,

it’s really looks + dominance traits in personality simply. Not rapport building skills and the other things guys chuck in. That’s not as important. Women will build the rapport.

I’m looking for a more specific definiton.of what actually works. With some good evidence to it,

That's not personality tho. That's like 5% of what personality entails. It would be like saying "going to the gym is all you need to become jacked", when that's only a part of it. Nutrition, macros, sleep, recovery, etc all play a part in it.

 

[Bigpapa]

I tend to think that even in LTR territory , mens whole Perspective on this personality thing is incorrect as well. You should see the amount of b1tching women do w their girlfriends about their men. The women will slate each others BFs togehter on group chats. That’s what they are doing half the day on their phones.

they just smile and pretend to their men,
And one week of the month get hormones and are lovey -dovey. The other 3 weeks they are either neutral or a pain in the ass and openly agressive, in most relationships this occurs.

And also , to any guy is not yet a father -wait till she had the kids and watch the change . The mask falls
Off pretty fast then. Across the board. That’s a real reality check

You know, my theory about women b1tching about men in general is actually a projection of their own behavior

Almost all the women that I met that were b1tching about men / relationships, etc saying that men are toxic or whatever, in reality they were the toxic ones

and I think that hamster wheel spins something like

Woman knows she is toxic deep down -> projects that men must be too ( or worse ) -> they feel guilty for being toxic -> finds the slightest reason to pin it on the men -> ends up with men are the toxic ones and she is a victim