Does personality even matter?

[Cheeky_James]

I wa contemplating this today before a date.
After a few duds dates lately. And now a 3rd did date tonite..(meh)
I post deets on my journal thread fyi.

I mean chicks know in a blink of an eye wether they feel physical chemistry or not.

and if they do, they will just mirror the guys personality anyway. And make it easy as p1ss for him. They will act in certain ways to make rapport , etc and pretend he’s so funny and interesting ..LOL.

Is all this game sh1t we debate really just a cope?
Like. Is it just a form of anxiety…?

Does personality even really matter .. for hookups most likely not at all ,
and for relationships.?. maybe even not really that much either possibly?, I mean the mask slips off women after x time period in a relationship anyway… we’ve all experienced that.

ive seen this written on some ex PUA blogs over the years. Guys that debunk Game completely and go BP. And I’m tending to agree w it more and more tbh.

brw I’ve just had a sh1t date and I’m a bit tipsy writing this. A bit annoyed but not at the chick tbh. She called it early so ..that was for the best.

opinions..?

 

[Mertz09]

Yes it does.

 

[Poonstra]

Does personality even really matter .. for hookups most likely not at all ,

Correct, but even with hookups I need to feel some level of connection.

and for relationships.?

It matters a lot, possibly more than anything.

 

[UK manc]

Yeah, definitely..

I'm wondering if the current difficulty you're experiencing is because of incongruity between sober you and then you after a few drinks over the course of your date...

It's very hard to stay a constant "personality" when you're drinking a few <- voice of experience!

Sometimes it works if you and her are on the same glide path with the alcohol on an evening, but maybe you're not managing to keep it in sync.

(Watch the weight gain too with the drinking)

 

[Cheeky_James]

Yes it does.

But where did we first get that idea though..?
From a WOMAN!

 

[Cheeky_James]

Correct, but even with hookups I need to feel some level of connection.


It matters a lot, possibly more than anything.

but.. how can I be correct if you then go on to say you ‘need some level of connection’?.
I mean.. the ‘connection’ is fake right ?
It’s just shmooze really. Yknow.. Insincere.
As it’s all just a ‘prelude to a fvck ‘ (as one girl once said to me)…

 

[Barrister]

It does matter. Quite a bit actually.

And I’m getting this from my own experience - not from any woman. And to be clear, your personality just needs to be confident and charismatic when speaking to them. Any combination of other characteristics are fine. Sure, you may get a lay just based off of her being horny and being physically attracted, but add in a man who can carry a conversation (when needed) and say just the right thing to be seductive and it makes a major difference in your success rate.

 

[Poonstra]

I said SOME, albeit al whole lot less then for a relationship. At least no active aversion

 

[Cheeky_James]

It does matter. Quite a bit actually.

And I’m getting this from my own experience - not from any woman. And to be clear, your personality just needs to be confident and charismatic when speaking to them. Any combination of other characteristics are fine. Sure, you may get a lay just based off of her being horny and being physically attracted, but add in a man who can carry a conversation (when needed) and say just the right thing to be seductive and it makes a major difference in your success rate.

I read a funny comment on a black pill video recently. The guy put it like this

“your face is your personality .. and your height is your confidence”

then another guy topped it with

“ faceonality and heightfidence”

those BP guys are f’n funny man…

and they may well be right (!)

I read another summary of attraction on Looksmaxxing.org

they reckon approach and personality ‘game’ accounts for about 10%.
Don’t anti-game and fvck it up basically.
again, they could be right …

 

[Bigpapa]

I read a funny comment on a black pill video recently. The guy put it like this

“your face is your personality .. and your height is your confidence”

then another guy topped it with

“ faceonality and heightfidence”

those BP guys are f’n funny man…

and they may well be right (!)

I read another summary of attraction on Looksmaxxing.org

they reckon approach and personality ‘game’ accounts for about 10%.
Don’t anti-game and fvck it up basically.
again, they could be right …

Plenty of guys whom are top guys from a black pill perspective are not getting laid as much as people think

but I guess it is much easier to say that it is not because of you but about something that you can not control ( like genetics ). Moving the blame from you to outside factors

it is more or less like the case of a company being poorly managed, and management moves the blame to outside factors or on the employees.

And in the moment you suggest some small stuff to be changed because you have plenty of proof of not working, you are being framed as being difficult and trying to attack their leadership

despite the data being there, the logic being there and you are willing to make it as it is their thinking

 

[Bigpapa]

but.. how can I be correct if you then go on to say you ‘need some level of connection’?.
I mean.. the ‘connection’ is fake right ?
It’s just shmooze really. Yknow.. Insincere.
As it’s all just a ‘prelude to a fvck ‘ (as one girl once said to me)…

I think your issue is that you do not go for compliance + bad calibration between what you say and what you do

you can’t jump from hello hello to eye f8ckinf the girl or becoming very sexual

Neither from talking from whatever subject to starting touching her sexually, etc

actually escalating things too sexually will make the whole interaction blow into your face in the very vast majority of cases

and I think all of this stems from your line of thinking that if a girl is interested she automatically is up for having sex with you

 

[Clockwerk50]

The 4 factors of SMV are looks, money, status, and personality.

Different women, depending on their needs and wants, will prioritize different factors or put more weight on some than others. Either way, it's important to optimize all four factors because being deficient in any one of them can limit your dating options, and improving one factor can help compensate for weaknesses in another.

So, in short, yes, it matters.