"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Does one truly need a wingman?

Ricky

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I can honestly say that I work better alone. It's only because when I have friends there, I'm a little too much of a joker as a woman as I'm trying to entertain them and the woman also.

If I can get a girl in isolation I do much better. But it is tough to go out to a bar alone, especially when the night is young.

Now there are situations when a wingman is very useful

1) In a group of two girls, it is very useful to have one guy take on the other girl. But the way I found it works best is if he entertains her in one area of the bar and you find a way to take her friend to another area of the bar. BINGO, Isolation achieved!

If you can't physically isolate them, hopefully at a point the conversations become separate. This is essentially the same thing.

What if your friend isn't a good conversationalist with women. You are better off alone. I have had too many times where friends screw up my pickup attempts by interjecting in them.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Crank_It_Up

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I agree, you're better off alone. What usually happens is either your friend doesn't like the girl you picked and tries to persuade you to move on, or he doesn't like her friend and pisses her off. She then tells your girl that your friend is a clown and tries to persuade her to move on.

A wingman is like riding a bike with training wheels... with a little practice you just don't need them.
 

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Do you guys really go to the clubs alone, or do you just split with your buddys?
 
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