Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Does "No Contact" really work?

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Just the fact I am posting everything on here doesn't mean I am going to blow it DOES IT?

Are you guys saying I can't be posting updates and questions because it means I am AFC and it will hurt my progress?

If that is what you are saying, I will sign off now and not come back for awhile.

I consider this place no different than just talking to a friend. Besides I won't be around as much after this week I am off for a few days and I am just enjoying posting here to pass time I don't see any harm coming from it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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great article, and a good reminder to chill the hell out and not take life so seriously.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Just the fact I am posting everything on here doesn't mean I am going to blow it DOES IT?

Are you guys saying I can't be posting updates and questions because it means I am AFC and it will hurt my progress?

If that is what you are saying, I will sign off now and not come back for awhile.

I consider this place no different than just talking to a friend. Besides I won't be around as much after this week I am off this week and I am enjoying just venting.

No. NO. Posting or not posting for 2 weeks MATTERS NOT.

You just need to SLOW DOWN. Take one woman at a time for now --- WITHOUT investing so much in what each one MEANS (secret answer --- NOTHING!!!!)

Just take it easy and live and learn. It's ok to post all you want. Others will say stuff-- right/wrong/middling......

Don't listen to ME or to POSTER X.... listen to us ALL. (Except the idiots.)


And quit being so strung up on any given GIRL.

F*ck the hell outta this new one all you want. Don't fall in "love" with her.

Keep meeting new ones. Lighten UP.

Jeez, man.
 
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This one just caught me with my guard down. I was in control at my own pace and she contacts me meets me out of thin freaking air and blows me away. This sh!t could be a movie that's why I am so skeptical. I found the watch on the floor, my bad.

You are right I'm not trying to argue at all... I just don't know how else to explain it and I am probably in for a crash.
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Just need to turn the tables on this girl. Instead of me posting about her I want her on some site posting about me.

Is that too much to ask?
You're not getting it.
 
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Feeling good today, I'm not freaking out like yesterday. She'll be calling for a date tonight so she said and I'm going to take her to dinner then back to my place for a movie.
 

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Feeling good today, I'm not freaking out like yesterday. She'll be calling for a date tonight so she said and I'm going to take her to dinner then back to my place for a movie.
She's calling you for a date and you're going to take her to dinner..... Ummm... So where are all the people who profess that the person who asks for the date pays??? :whistle:
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
She's calling you for a date and you're going to take her to dinner..... Ummm... So where are all the people who profess that the person who asks for the date pays??? :whistle:



Actually she asked to just get a drink I countered with dinner. I don't want to blow it by drinking all the time. Besides I'm the one making 70 grand remember...
 

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Actually she asked to just get a drink I countered with dinner. I don't want to blow it by drinking all the time. Besides I'm the one making 70 grand remember...
YOU remember about coming off as a "provider." At least you've inspected the plumming already.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
YOU remember about coming off as a "provider." At least you've inspected the plumming already.

There was a thread awhile ago about how you "pay" to date a 21 year old.

I think that could apply to me... You pay for what you get man. What am I supposed to do? She is a broke college kid. I don't even think she works living with her parents. I can't just go out drinking with her all the time. Like you said I need to stay away from that and not blow it. Remember NYE I am trying to forget.

I am in untested waters I have always dated older women this going to be interesting.
 
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Latinoman said:

Whatever, how would you handle this situation differently?

Not call for a week after you shag? Make her pay for dinner?

Good luck with that.
 

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There was a thread awhile ago about how you "pay" to date a 21 year old.

I think that could apply to me... You pay for what you get man. What am I supposed to do? She is a broke college kid. I don't even think she works living with her parents. I can't just go out drinking with her all the time. Like you said I need to stay away from that and not blow it. Remember NYE I am trying to forget.

I am in untested waters I have always dated older women this going to be interesting.
Alright, fair enough. Here's a qualifying question for 'ya. Other than her looks and her current interest level, what else does this woman have that falls into your specific needs?
 
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Alright, fair enough. Here's a qualifying question for 'ya. Other than her looks and her current interest level, what else does this woman have that falls into your specific needs?
She lives in my no name small boring town. We like the same music, she likes to smoke. We are from the same area. Her family owns a farm. No baggage, no divorces, no disorders, no kids, no drama.
Oh and no exes that she talked about.

How does that sound?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Wait I forgot what I was gonna say.
 
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Smoking pot? AFC.
Actually I had quit for years and years but just started up again. I happened to have some laying around the other night and I used it as a reason to go back to my house to "smoke" and she loved it. Don't have any more right now, but she wants to smoke more than I do.
 

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Whoa did you see that? What? Damn.

Do you have any Visene?
 
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Alot of girls LOVE to smoke it never hurts to have some laying around even if you don't smoke yourself. It gets them extremely horny.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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