Does NC ever work for you in the past?

[mastermen]

Say you were dating a girl, initially everyone was fine and dandy, she was so into, then over some time, you notice she starts to lose interest
She back off, pulls back, it becomes harder to make dates with her. She used to calls you or text you a lot, now when you reach out to her she becomes cold, and she never reaches out to you.

Then you go into NC mode, will this salvage the situation?
Any experience?

 

[Slash Dolo]

The short answer is yes. The long answer is no if you don't change yourself.

Go no contact because you realize you need to go no contact to address certain issues with yourself and to make yourself better. Don't go no contact in hopes that a girl will like you again and in that time eat Cheetos and play video games all day.

But really, ask yourself.... would you want a woman back who would give up on you so easily in the first place? Think about it.

 

[Poon King]

My policy for sudden changes in behavior from a woman is to call her out on it. Tell her you notice it and see what she says. If the says something stupid, then you might need to move on.

NC is not meant to be a PUA mind trick. It is meant to make a clean and fast END so you can move on with life. Women who don't like you are women who don't matter. Women who don't matter are not worth thinking about or making threads about.

Men with self-respect only give women one chance per lifetime to dump them or reject them. Desperate faggots give women endless chances.. which is why women don't respect them.

Don't chase, replace. NEVER try to raise a woman's interest level. There is nothing more demeaning. You disrespect yourself when you do it while elevating the woman. A woman's interest should rise the longer she knows you. If the opposite happens.. then she is not a good match. Accept it and leave.

 

[marmel75]

Say you were dating a girl, initially everyone was fine and dandy, she was so into, then over some time, you notice she starts to lose interest
She back off, pulls back, it becomes harder to make dates with her. She used to calls you or text you a lot, now when you reach out to her she becomes cold, and she never reaches out to you.

Then you go into NC mode, will this salvage the situation?
Any experience?

For me, no...I had a woman hit me up after a month and we went on a few more dates but nothing ever came of it. That's the extent of any NC working for me. Although, I suppose you could say it did work because it freed me up from other women wasting my time when they were not interested enough.

 

[Infern0]

It "worked" for me once but considerable personal change had been achieved and it was that which caught her attention. She didn't "miss me" and I'd never have heard from her arm gain if I wasn't in much better shape, happy and with a new car etc.

 

[playa99]

NC worked for me with my ex as I soon realised I didn't want her and began improving myself.

The focus is on you, not the woman.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

NC worked for me with my ex as I soon realised I didn't want her and began improving myself.

The focus is on you, not the woman.

How much did your life change after you were able to get her completely out of your head?

 

[Silko]

NC triggers definitely the other one, but this should not be the raison number 1.
The reason should be you to get yourself wrapped up again. Once wrapped up ... you can still see if it's still worth.

I got a very destructive relationship 2006-2010. She broke up, twice. At the end you MUST NC to respect yourself.
NC turned out that she became needy and tried to contact me several times between 2010-2014.
The relationship was just too unhealthy there was nothing left to believe any word of her. I will never forget her and keep the good times in my head. In 2014 I turned her heavily down on another contact attempt from her. Since then: quiet.

Sometimes, NC is the only option, cause some people are toxic. And they remain it.

So, NC is for the love for yourself.

and concerning that ex ... I feel sorry for her, cause quite sure she is still not happy (but I do hope).

 

[Bayne05]

The concept of no contact is mostly about you more than about her. When you stop talking to her you showing her that she's not as valuable to you as she thought she was and you can do without her. On your side it's about coming to the realisation that she's not the girl for you and abandoning whatever feelings you had for her. NC is about moving on and focusing on your life.

 

[playa99]

How much did your life change after you were able to get her completely out of your head?

My life now is incomparable to back then.

My ex actually came crawling back a year later saying she had fvcked up and wanted me back. At that point I had got my self respect back and knew it would be catastrophic to get back with her.

Once a relationships done it's generally done, the pool has been pissed in.

 

[Silko]

Also, as you get dumped, suddenly you are out of a known game rule. Now, new and only her rules are applied. One of the rules is they try to put you often in the friend zone. But this is just to keep you often as a joker, or mind gaming.

So, with NC you can start to apply your rules you just need for the sake of your own being. A lot of girls don't understand that you have also still rules after they dumped you.

NC will help you:
1/ to step out of her game
2/ getting back to yourself and apply asap your own rules, just for the best for yourself

 

[Glassguy]

NC has worked for me......every time.

I go NC, immediately go on the hunt or add in another plate to spin. Soon after I forget about old "whats her name". I dont do the friends thing after, I just move on. Treadmill, lift weights, spin plates/date. Pretty simple.

Think about this- any girl that you have to "trick" into liking you more, giving you more, etc., is not worth it. Its like staying on a crashing plane hoping it comes out of it instead of taking that last parachute and jumping out. It rarely, if ever, works out.

NC is for YOU, not her. When you get that principle you will free yourself of getting wrapped up on these chicks. They seriously are a dime a dozen. Hell, every time in my life I thought I lost something good, something better comes along.

 

[Igetit!]

Women who don't like you are women who don't matter.

That one statement needs to be etched in stone,like a Mt. Rushmore.

90% of the bs guys unnecessarily deal with would disappear,if they followed just that one simple line.

 

[dude99]

Say you were dating a girl, initially everyone was fine and dandy, she was so into, then over some time, you notice she starts to lose interest
She back off, pulls back, it becomes harder to make dates with her. She used to calls you or text you a lot, now when you reach out to her she becomes cold, and she never reaches out to you.

Then you go into NC mode, will this salvage the situation?
Any experience?

If you are using NC to get the girl you will fail. No contact is for you to heal and move on. Not change her interest level.

The only time it will make her come back to you is if she has NO OTHER OPTIONS.

Do not try to use NC to get the girl. It isn't meant for that.

 

[Silko]

The only time it will make her come back to you is if she has NO OTHER OPTIONS.

Indeed. Especially if she broke up a bit out of the blue (without any abuse in the relationship) ... or she was just taking from the relationship (= ego food) ... then is the chance quite high she will return when:
- she is bored
- feeling alone
- after having fvcked around and all of them left her (should be an indirect waking up call too)

This will happen within the next year on the breaking up. Be prepared.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Indeed. Especially if she broke up a bit out of the blue (without any abuse in the relationship) ... or she was just taking from the relationship (= ego food) ... then is the chance quite high she will return when:
- she is bored
- feeling alone
- after having fvcked around and all of them left her (should be an indirect waking up call too)

This will happen within the next year on the breaking up. Be prepared.

Either that or they don't even treat her 1/2 as good and she feels crappy, comes back to you for ego food. She will try to be your friend for that, don't allow it. She will take penetration for the priviledge of being your friend or lover.

 

[PantyWhisperer]

I am in the middle of almost 90 days NC and she has made 3 or 4 direct attempts to contact me. But all of the attempts were to put me back in the b!tch boy friend zone that I NC'd out of, nothing indicating a willingness to go back to being FB's. So I didn't acknowledge her texts or messages at all. I am still friends with her BFF who tells me that she is mad that I won't respond but not so much that she's willing to actually send me a text that is worth responding to. Most of the messages were her poking me with a stick to see if "I'm mad at her" or not. F that. So I could've responded and gone right back to where I was but I don't need or want her friendship. So yeah, this NC is permanent, as far as I'm concerned.

 

[Silko]

Most of the messages were her poking me with a stick to see if "I'm mad at her" or not. F that. So I could've responded and gone right back to where I was but I don't need or want her friendship. So yeah, this NC is permanent, as far as I'm concerned.

Exactly. Unless you get a very obvious constructive message, it's mostly for their own ego.

I got once an ex, she visited me suddenly on a party I gave. I'm not joking, she took a plain to travel to me, without warning. Well, it's even more sick than poking.
I sent her instantly back from where she came.

 

[PantyWhisperer]

Exactly. Unless you get a very obvious constructive message, it's mostly for their own ego.

I got once an ex, she visited me suddenly on a party I gave. I'm not joking, she took a plain to travel to me, without warning. Well, it's even more sick than poking.
I sent her instantly back from where she came.

That sounds brutal and delicious!! Yes, they also use the "like" button to gauge your mood towards them as well. I just continue to ignore!