Does love like this exist in real life?

[marmel75]

Just watched Endless Love(2014 version) and loved it(I still am a sappy romantic in some ways I suppose)...but this got me wondering...

Does love like that exist...I mean I hear stories like this of real people so I assume it must, but how many are lucky enough to experience it? Basically the story goes, guy meets girl he went to HS with but never talked to, always waiting for the perfect time that never came, which led to a chance meeting after graduation where he finally talked to her and they end up completely falling for each other..the type of love you might only feel once in a lifetime...the "one" if you will...

Now I have to admit I'm asking this because I've never been lucky enough to feel this for another person yet, and perhaps never will...I was wondering has anyone else felt this type of love for someone before...the type of love where you literally need that person almost as much as you need oxygen, and they return the feelings the same way? Where the attraction and electricity never faded and growing stronger over time?

How did it start? Was it right away, like you both knew you were perfect for each other and never looked back? Did it develop over time? How did it end up?

Do you believe this even exists anymore? As I reflect over my life I contemplate if I have missed out on the true meaning of life by not having experienced something like this...obviously plenty of other people are in the same boat, but what percentage of person actually meets their "one" in life?

 

[Heisenberg]

Going to SoSuave to ask if storybook love and "the one" exists is like going to a KKK meeting to ask if Obama is the greatest president in history.

You're not going to get a very objective answer.

 

[VikingKing]

Honestly. That would be very rare. I mean I bet livefreex is close to it. Because he found a girl from the countryside, which is different than a poor city person in china.

She has to be raised strictly, and traditional. Even still that wont grantee you anything, only increase your chances i guess.

I live with a chinese for two years. Very different experience from western women.

 

[marmel75]

Going to SoSuave to ask if storybook love and "the one" exists is like going to a KKK meeting to ask if Obama is the greatest president in history.

You're not going to get a very objective answer.

I realize that, but I thought it would be a good topic nonetheless...

I'd assume this would most likely occur when you are young...pre college graduation...

 

[El Payaso]

The movie was written and directed by a chick. That should tell you all you need to know...

 

[zekko]

I've never seen that movie. But I am impressed more by stories of women who stick by their men in times of great health crises. I recently saw the documentary on Roger Ebert on CNN, "Life Itself". He had his jaw removed because of cancer and was suffering from a number of issues. It really struck me how his wife stood by his side.

Ebert had a Do Not Resuscitate order, against his wife's wishes. She wanted him to stay with her, at all costs. But she had to stand by and watch him die, regardless. Although she said ultimately it was a peaceful and beautiful moment, it was a very painful loss for her. They had been married for 20 years.

Maybe guys here would say she just stayed for the money, or she only stayed because she was "past the wall", or that she only stayed because he was a celebrity, or whatever. That was certainly not my impression. But there are stories like this that play out in regular people's homes and families all the time. To me, those stories are the real proof of love, although they may be hard for guys on forums such as this to relate to.

 

[Kingpaw]

I think I had this kinda feeling in highschool.

I love her and for some reasons we broke up and we know we still like each other. then I moved to another city farrrr farrr away..

I got hurt from breakup but I was like : even i was hurt I did not wanna get over her LOL..(Its been 7 or 8 years..) And of course i m over her..

but still we chat sometime online.. she's always a lil special to me.

 

[om1xr]

First, There is a big difference between true love and being addicted to woman's attention, validation, pvssy...etc.

Second, 99% of women love the idea of being loved by a high value man but don't love that man. but when a man love he loves for real.

as for your question you may go through that experience but there is a big chance that it will be a one way street kind of feeling.

 

[logicallefty]

Take the rarest coin on earth. Have someone go out anywhere in the entire Pacific Ocean and drop it somewhere but don't tell you where. Now you go out there, potentially anywhere in the Pacific, and find it. If you do find it, you are a lucky man and you now understand your chance of finding a perfect woman in 2015 and spending the rest of your lives together until "death do you part".

For a more realistic approach, adopt my "beer" mindset about woman:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=221281

Adopt the mindset that that every woman is temporary, like tonight's bottle of beer.

With this mindset you have a much greater chance dieing a happy man, with or without a woman at the time you do.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

I've seen some good girls and I've seen hoes. Guys just try to make relationships out of hoes and they get burned and jaded by it.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

It's certainly hard to conceive of it existing in larger cities where everywhere you look, GIGS beckons, but harder still is to believe that it can persist.

 

[Epimanes]

I would say yes.... I felt it.. And married her. Still together today and better than ever. Sure there was plenty of times when I felt like leaving or cheating.. But our commitment to god that we promised him to be together forever til death do us part was all that was holding us together. However, we made it through those trying times and came out on top. I am thankful neither one of us pulled the plug during those shytty times.

Epi

 

[Huffman]

So you did this for god? Just because he's god? Not because of the standards you hold yourself to, but rather out of pure obedience? Wow.

 

[zekko]

So you did this for god? Just because he's god? Not because of the standards you hold yourself to, but rather out of pure obedience? Wow.

If he's obedient to God, he's holding himself to God's standards. He's adopted those standards for himself, ideologically. It's not that hard to understand. Not that easy to do, however.

 

[Huffman]

I guess it's the same. Didn't mean any disrespect by it.

 

[Epimanes]

So you did this for god? Just because he's god? Not because of the standards you hold yourself to, but rather out of pure obedience? Wow.

At times... Yes. I'm no regular church goer though because I dislike organized religion.. But that doesn't mean I shouldn't keep my promise to god and my wife and kids. Everything happens for a reason. My troubled times with my wife was for a reason... Some kind of lesson...or a period of growing.. Or heck a test of faith that things would eventually turn around and they did. I needed to change me to fix it.

I could have easily just fvcked some chick/secretary from one of the many offices in any of the 3 commercial buildings that I manage.. Tons of IOI's from many of them all the time. I have total and complete privacy including my own bathroom. No one lords over me during the day. As long as I get my shyt done no one cares what I do. Fvcking random chicks cuz I wasn't getting laid enough was not worth the cost of losing my wife and kids so I had to figure out wtf was going on.. And that took a lot of time.. And patience and seeing a psycologist with my wife.

When you have been with one woman for as long as I have.. All this pickup stuff doesn't work long term. LTR's need a good balance of GOOD alpha and GOOD beta.

Epi

Edit: so if you think I was never tempted.. I certainly was. Lots. I would sit and think to myself "god.. Why are you allowing my life to be like this.. Why does it seem my wife hates me.. What is so inheritly wrong with me that my wife is not attracted?"

Answer??... Well we were both broken people and I let my wife lead too long. I was wayyy to beta.. Beta in a bad way and not a balanced good way. So I went full alpha.. That didn't work either cuz that got me kicked out of my home for a short while.. It took a calm assertive approach and a crap ton of reading. Starting with marriage builders to build good beta and then came here and got a huge dose of alpha.. But it back fired on me... So then I finally found marriedmansexlife.com and it showed me the balance of alpha and beta. By fixing me I am fixing my wife as I take more of the leader role in my marriage. My wifes hamster still gets in the way occasionally but she's getting better and I'm getting better at not reacting to it so much.

 

[Epimanes]

I guess it's the same. Didn't mean any disrespect by it.

None taken sir.. We are all on a journey to reprogram ourselves. Its not easy.

 

[logicallefty]

If he's obedient to God, he's holding himself to God's standards. He's adopted those standards for himself, ideologically. It's not that hard to understand. Not that easy to do, however.

I'm not a Christian, I'm Agnostic, but lately I have been reading the Bible a little bit. The one my dad gave me when I was 12 and never picked up till 40. Yeah that one.. Anyway.. And I will say this, while there is a lot of stuff in there that I think is total goon babble, there is also a lot of great stuff on how men and women should conduct their lives. Not because "God says so", but because it's just common freakin' sense. I especially love the verses they have about how women should be. WOW. Great stuff. We had a thread about it a while back too.. Not to get off topic too much, but I wanted to throw that out there about the Bible. Again, speaking as a non-Christian, I still think it's some great reading..

 

[Epimanes]

That being said logicallefty..

The bible says.. Women are inheritly disrespectful.. Its built into them. All of them. Men inheritly are unloving.. Its built into them just as disrespect is for women. So when women are feeling unloved they act disrespectfully.. And when men feel disrespected they act unlovingly. So who goes first to fix this cycle? Well men of course. Why? Because god made us to lead...

Ephesians 5:33 says
So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

This was written to show you who goes first... Since god made us men the leaders its up to us to lead your wife/gf. That verse was basicly god saying "I know you men are not programmed to love like women do but I command you to do it and be first about it (hence why men was referenced first in the statement) and this will win her over" and when god mentions women must respect her husband second its because he knew it was less likely, but its still a command to respect because god knows how horrible women can be with the disrespect when she's feeling unloved but it comes AFTER god said to men to love their wives.

This does not mean to go full bore beta pushover either.. Incase you were wondering. Women need our emotional strength and leadership.

Be her captain... And let her be the first officer.

Epi

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Love his wife as he loves himself. I like that even though I'm not Christian.

I interpret it like this: if you make a mistake, you won't overlook it. You will fix this mistake and will punish yourself for it if you keep making this mistake. Treat women the same. That doesn't mean just punish them when they make mistakes, but you get the idea of how to treat yourself (and thus, her).