when she breaks up with you but isn't over you and you let her have it verbally and procede to delete her myspace number etc. does that make her second guess herself? I did that. i probably could have been more smooth and nonchalant but i messed up on that early on and at the time i was angry and let her have it. telling her she wasn't a good gf anyways and making her feel like an idiot for being influenced by her caddy friends (she hangs with guys who have an estrogen level higher than hers) and telling her im going to dwell everything she did till i can't stand the thought of her anymore. I told her i dont even want her in my life she's not worthy (in other words) of my attention and affection. mind you this girl is afraid of losing important people to her, its her biggest fear. i know this is a little immature that i wanna know the answer to this but hey im bitter! lol im sure most of us have been there. so i let her have it and proceeded to cut her out of every aspect where she might have a hold on me. what do you guys think?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Does it bother the ex?
- Thread starter stees
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
WC2
Master Don Juan
If she broke up with you, like Cappyton said, she is over you.
Whatever you've done thus far is irrelevant. What's done is done.
Getting angry when a girl breaks things off with you is natural, but it should be an anger process that you deal with by yourself or with close friends; not her.
Anger just gives any ex satisfaction that she did actually mean something to you.
I suggest you change your thinking. Stop wondering if it pisses her off and start moving on with your life for you.
It's tough, because you probably have no inspiration right now. Read a self-improvement book or something. Even if you don't read the whole thing, just getting in that state of mind should help boost you back into your own valuable self.
Whatever you've done thus far is irrelevant. What's done is done.
Getting angry when a girl breaks things off with you is natural, but it should be an anger process that you deal with by yourself or with close friends; not her.
Anger just gives any ex satisfaction that she did actually mean something to you.
I suggest you change your thinking. Stop wondering if it pisses her off and start moving on with your life for you.
It's tough, because you probably have no inspiration right now. Read a self-improvement book or something. Even if you don't read the whole thing, just getting in that state of mind should help boost you back into your own valuable self.
ya but see this isn't the first breakup. we break up and get back break up and get back. "power struggle" she's not over me i can pretty much guarantee that and as for initiating the break up, oh i have, to get her to fall in line.. she does then something else comes up. this may very well be the last time tho cuz i am pretty fed up with the back and forth game. but of course i still do love her which complicates things atleast on my end.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
WC2
Master Don Juan
You don't have to tell me. I've been in one of these for almost 3 years now.stees said:ya but see this isn't the first breakup. we break up and get back break up and get back. "power struggle" she's not over me i can pretty much guarantee that and as for initiating the break up, oh i have, to get her to fall in line.. she does then something else comes up. this may very well be the last time tho cuz i am pretty fed up with the back and forth game. but of course i still do love her which complicates things atleast on my end.
She may not be 'over you' but she's sure as hell not fully feeling you right now. If anything, she's just hoping for something better (in her eyes) to come around (and it will eventually).
This is why breaking up and getting back together multiple times never does work. Usually when a girl breaks it off, she's searching for something better, even if she still does have feelings for her ex.
If she can't find something better, sure she will come back. But it's a bloody cycle bro. It just keeps going and going and going.
It's not until you break fully free of her for a week or two that you'll see things from a much broader perspective.
Plenty o' fish in the sea.
like WC2 said.
take a week or two off.
then you'll see.
its not that ur in love, you just blinded by her familiarity in your life.
its hard to let go.
so i suggest you tell her you want a week off or two.
go hang out with you're boys, actively pursue hobbies, and other women.
then you can look back and see how silly it is for you to be in it.
the stresses of a bad relationship can really affect a person and it can really hurt not just you for the time, but you're performance at work, gym and health.
i know because i have been in it, and that is why, today if i feel im not happy, i tell her im taking time off to think. but i also dont continue something that is doomed to die anyway.
take a week or two off.
then you'll see.
its not that ur in love, you just blinded by her familiarity in your life.
its hard to let go.
so i suggest you tell her you want a week off or two.
go hang out with you're boys, actively pursue hobbies, and other women.
then you can look back and see how silly it is for you to be in it.
the stresses of a bad relationship can really affect a person and it can really hurt not just you for the time, but you're performance at work, gym and health.
i know because i have been in it, and that is why, today if i feel im not happy, i tell her im taking time off to think. but i also dont continue something that is doomed to die anyway.
well my buddy checked her myspace (on his own lol) cuz of course i cant i deleted her plus i dont wanna look. and from what he said i think shes definitely second guessin n thinking. but i know its afcish to care but just for an update for yall.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Hell no bro...stees said:wc2 so ur still in that relationship?
I'll get phone calls a few times a week, I usually just ignore them.
She'll attempt to come to my place sometimes and I'll just tell her I'm busy and to get the f*ck out.
I have to admit when I go out and I get a little sloshed, I am more tempted to sex her up, but I've avoided that emotion for a month or two now.. of course she just wants it more now and won't leave me alone.
Even if I'm walking out of the club horny as hell at the end of the night, anything is better than reverting back to the same sick ways of the ex. Keep your mind on what her intentions are and I doubt you'll ever go back.
ic ic. ya she emailed me today. when she usually tries to get me to talk to her she does it subtly. like forwarding an inspirational email she received or something funny. she sent me 2 of those today and an email saying "please don't write back. i dont need to talk to you. your friend is looking for u he asked me for u and where ur at. (im thinking it was on myspace*) oh, and tell him ur not my bf anymore. thanks." she trying to ease her way back again? trying to get a hand on me? playing more mind games?
Either way, don't reply to her.stees said:ic ic. ya she emailed me today. when she usually tries to get me to talk to her she does it subtly. like forwarding an inspirational email she received or something funny. she sent me 2 of those today and an email saying "please don't write back. i dont need to talk to you. your friend is looking for u he asked me for u and where ur at. (im thinking it was on myspace*) oh, and tell him ur not my bf anymore. thanks." she trying to ease her way back again? trying to get a hand on me? playing more mind games?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Unbridled_Phoenix
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It's a pointless bs message, she's trying to fvck with you. Ignore it.