Does improving your look make you come out as insecure?

[bobby87]

Me and this girl from work were talking about being vain or something. Anyway i tell her im probably quite vain as i whiten my teeth once in a while, pluck my eyebrows, etc. I also told her how i got ear surgery when i was 12 (just ended up teeling her that) and just went on to say theres nothing wrong with someone trying to improve their look.

Well after hearing all this, she comes out with 'god, are you that insecure with yourself'. I then tell her, so if someone is fat they should just stay fat and not try to lose weight as they will come out as 'insecure'. She then said 'yeh, people should just accept themselves for who they are'. I was just looking at her thinking this girl is a joke. I aint taking what she said seriously at all.

But still id like to know how the fuk can trying to look good come out as insecure? Man some people are full of bullsh!t in this world.

 

[PeeGee]

It's WHY you do something, rather than what you are doing that's important. I brush my teeth and take showers because skipping them makes me smell awful. Now if I start doing other grooming actions for the sake of 'looking a certain way so people will like me' or whatever bizarre excuse went through her mind, maybe you might have something against you.

Do you do all these things to compensate?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by bobby87
Well after hearing all this, she comes out with 'god, are you that insecure with yourself'. I then tell her, so if someone is fat they should just stay fat and not try to lose weight as they will come out as 'insecure'. She then said 'yeh, people should just accept themselves for who they are'. I was just looking at her thinking this girl is a joke. I aint taking what she said seriously at all....

Ever consider SHE is the one that is insecure. You're taking more pride in yourself than she does in herself. People usually snipe at others when someone seems to be pulling away from them in a positive way by bettering themselves. Hopefully you aren't letting her hold you back.

 

[aftershock]

I'm vain.

Vanity is a good thing - it means you look good. Simple.

A DJ takes pride in his apperance, for he knows that looking good is an advantage with the ladies.

He also doesn't give a s**t about what women think of him - you got it right for thinking that.

 

[Unregistered]

Vanity is just fine as long as you keep it in perspective.

 

[Krassus]

Originally posted by bobby87
I then tell her, so if someone is fat they should just stay fat and not try to lose weight as they will come out as 'insecure'. She then said 'yeh, people should just accept themselves for who they are'.

I don't result to blatant insults too often, but... this girl is a moron.

 

[DJDamage]

Never talk with a chick or any guy for that matter on your "personal grooming" habits unless its a haircut.

Its your personal business and nobody elses. You choose to share what you do with her so I am not surprised she looked at you funny.

 

[Jariel]

Re: Re: Does improving your look make you come out as insecure?

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Ever consider SHE is the one that is insecure. You're taking more pride in yourself than she does in herself. People usually snipe at others when someone seems to be pulling away from them in a positive way by bettering themselves. Hopefully you aren't letting her hold you back.

Wise words and so true. Had this happen with my ex-girlfriend and various "friends".

I consider insecurity hiding your faults rather than self-improvement.

 

[the12thplanet]

Originally posted by DJDamage
Never talk with a chick or any guy for that matter on your "personal grooming" habits unless its a haircut.

Its your personal business and nobody elses. You choose to share what you do with her so I am not surprised she looked at you funny.

quoted for truth. be as vain as you want, just dont talk about it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by the12thplanet
quoted for truth. be as vain as you want, just dont talk about it.

"I'm too sexy for my shirt, too sexy for my shirt, so sexy it hurts...."

Hey, I was singing...

 

[bobby87]

funny thing is the girl is vain herself. i can just see from the way she does her hair and makeup she puts in a lot of time.

i dont think she insecure with herself as she is very hot. she was probably just testing me out, but i didnt fall for it

 

[Qmanchoo]

I dont think she insecure with herself as she is very hot.

You'd be surprised how many girls who you think are hot think of themselves as average, or how many girls that you think are hot are very insecure about their looks.

I just graduated college about 4 months ago and after experiencing the bar scene there for years I have to say that most women are not secure with themselves, don't have high self esteem, and don't have their act together. Really. Maybe women are different in Boston than other areas of the country, we've been known to be overly pessismistic.

 

[Mister Big]

Most women wash themselves in perfumed soaps, exfoliate their skin daily, pluck their eyebrows, wax their bodies, paint their faces with tons of makeup, lengthen their eyelashes, spend a lot of time styling their hair, shop often for the best clothes (even those we'll only see if we sleep with them), dose themselves with perfume, get their nails done, color and highlight their hair, the list goes on and on and on. No woman has any right to judge our grooming behavior by comparison. The average woman's grooming would seem unbelievably extreme even compared to a full blown metrosexual's standards. Every woman should realize that if they spent half of their grooming time hitting the gym and eating right, they would all be hotter to us and a lot healthier. Their obsession about appearance is text book obsessive compulsive disorder with a touch of old fashioned lazy b*tch thrown into the mix.

Do whatever grooming makes you healthier and feel better about yourself, and ignore their idiotic discussions about it to avoid getting the OCD yourself. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

Oh my god!! Another philadelphian!!

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
Oh my god!! Another philadelphian!!

Yo Candyman!
ya talkin to me. forgitaboutit. ha, ha

Not born here, but grew up around the area and just moved back. I live just south of the city and work close to Baltimore which is nice logistically. I love philly and try to get out each to NYC, Baltimore, and DC at least every other month. I expect that living here is the best area to tap into huge ###### of chicks within a 50 mile radius. I am starting my boot camp to develop my cold approaches after next weekend.

It should be insane in the membrane.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

CANDYMAN!! Try CandyGIRL!!! Don't tell, I am a chick..