"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Does 'game' promote sociopathic tendencies?

sylvester the cat

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with all this talk of bpd's etc I found myself asking this question. I know many a player whom might pass as sociopaths. These men are adept in business and are very successful on the surface. Nice clothes, car, house etc but inside they are empty. Heartless and soulless. I know certain members here come across that way (mentioning no names *cough Danger * cough Guru* cough). All logic and no heart. What do you think?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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El Payaso

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Not necessarily promotes so much as it draws out those tendencies.
 

Malcontent

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All the traits BPD chicks have are basically the same things DJs are encouraged to do -- spin plates (orbiters), fluctuate emotions, manipulate, regard partner as expendable...
 

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I think the game promotes sociopathic tendencies. Not because it attracts women, but because it makes it easier to do what needs to be done (to be a player).

Once a guy is freed from the burden of morality and caring about the other person, he can use, manipulate, and lie to them as needed without any bothersome pangs of conscience.
 

foreverAFC

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i think being a sociopath or acting like one is considered having game
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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It depends on how much of one they are. High-functioning vs low-functioning for example. Low-functiong sociopaths are good with one on one encounters. They tend to be more manipulative. However, they lie a lot about themselves in order to help their chances with the other person. That is why they are not so great with a group of people. High-functioning sociopaths are more charismatic. They are better at moving the masses, but will not let you get close to them.

The thing is, every person has the ability to become one. It usually happens when one experiences severe emotional trauma or repeated emotional trauma. Loss of empathy is one key factor. However, many sociopaths (more so the ones who become that way later on in life due to emotional trauma) are simply able to turn empathy on and off like a switch. Whichever is more beneficial to them.
 

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Malcontent said:
All the traits BPD chicks have are basically the same things DJs are encouraged to do -- spin plates (orbiters), fluctuate emotions, manipulate, regard partner as expendable...
This is true. The pathology of men is sociopathy, while the pathology of women is borderline personality disorder. The two are essentially very similar, yet also different at the same time.

A BPD is the equivalent of a male sociopath.
 
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