"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Does 'game' promote sociopathic tendencies?

sylvester the cat

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with all this talk of bpd's etc I found myself asking this question. I know many a player whom might pass as sociopaths. These men are adept in business and are very successful on the surface. Nice clothes, car, house etc but inside they are empty. Heartless and soulless. I know certain members here come across that way (mentioning no names *cough Danger * cough Guru* cough). All logic and no heart. What do you think?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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El Payaso

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Not necessarily promotes so much as it draws out those tendencies.
 

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All the traits BPD chicks have are basically the same things DJs are encouraged to do -- spin plates (orbiters), fluctuate emotions, manipulate, regard partner as expendable...
 

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I think the game promotes sociopathic tendencies. Not because it attracts women, but because it makes it easier to do what needs to be done (to be a player).

Once a guy is freed from the burden of morality and caring about the other person, he can use, manipulate, and lie to them as needed without any bothersome pangs of conscience.
 

foreverAFC

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i think being a sociopath or acting like one is considered having game
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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It depends on how much of one they are. High-functioning vs low-functioning for example. Low-functiong sociopaths are good with one on one encounters. They tend to be more manipulative. However, they lie a lot about themselves in order to help their chances with the other person. That is why they are not so great with a group of people. High-functioning sociopaths are more charismatic. They are better at moving the masses, but will not let you get close to them.

The thing is, every person has the ability to become one. It usually happens when one experiences severe emotional trauma or repeated emotional trauma. Loss of empathy is one key factor. However, many sociopaths (more so the ones who become that way later on in life due to emotional trauma) are simply able to turn empathy on and off like a switch. Whichever is more beneficial to them.
 

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Malcontent said:
All the traits BPD chicks have are basically the same things DJs are encouraged to do -- spin plates (orbiters), fluctuate emotions, manipulate, regard partner as expendable...
This is true. The pathology of men is sociopathy, while the pathology of women is borderline personality disorder. The two are essentially very similar, yet also different at the same time.

A BPD is the equivalent of a male sociopath.
 
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