Almost every rash decision in life can be fixed; theft, bad credit, becoming substance dependent, gaining 500 pounds, hell even some life sentences get paroled! There are only 2 things, off the top of my head, that can’t be: death sentence and popping out a kid (notice the correlation…lol). With that in mind, there is no excuse for having a kid to somebody without knowing every possible nuance! Most ‘oops’ stories are BS and cases of entrapment, deception, or irresponsibility!
When I was younger i dated a single mom.Worst mistake ever.The reality of it is, that single moms will trap you. They can't help but do so. They know their kid needs a father, and that is what you become. The surrogate father, the band aid on a war wound. She fvcked up, chose the wrong person, was dumb enough to have a kid with them... that is the bottom line. When you step into that situation, you are a means to an end. She will do what she can to get you interested, she will make those first months so fvcking wonderful you can't explain it.
BUt they will use you. REmember this, and if you have already started dating a single mother, you know: you will come last. You are the least most important thing on her list of priorities. Yeah man, you. THis is exactly the opposite with a woman who doesn't have kids. A single mom cares about her kid, herself, her extracurriculars (b/c she has to fight have any),her baby daddy, her friends, her family and then you. Once she has you, meaning, once she ropes you into developing a relationship with her child, you will move to the very end of her priority list.
Trust me. DOn't believe me? Wait.
That's when she has you. Because if you are a good man, once you've developed a relationship with her kid, you won't leave. You will feel obligated to stay. ONce he starts calling you "dad" you won't want to break his heart. She has you. You will continue to come in last. She will start asking more and more of you. Things like alone time with her, romance and passion will no longer exist. Sex will become conditional, she will treat it like a chore. You will see all of this unfold slowly, before you can realize how deep you are in.
DOn't believe me? Try it, see what happens.
AVOID SINGLE MOTHERS AT ALL COST! AVOID SINGLE MOMS AT ALL COST- NO MATTER HOW HOT SHE IS, OR HOW NICE SHE IS. AVOID THEM. You can do better. You deserve better. Remember that.