"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Does cuddling = sex

realsmoothie

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Vulpine said:
I'll remind you here, if she's on your couch, she's in-bounds. Your house, your couch, your woman. If she didn't want to fux, she wouldn't be there, or she can leave, yeah?

I don't care if it's my place or hers... if I'm cuddling I'm assuming she wants more. Of course... it may not be all-out f*cking...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm not against cuddling after sex. In fact, this is particularly useful as a reinforcer for a chick to continue having sex with you. But the cuddle b!tch is a different situation. This is a woman using an AFC to give her security with no expectation of reciprocating anything sexual, but the guy still clings to the hope that something might happen.

Personally I went this route in my misguided AFC youth and I can speak from experience that the hottest sex I've ever had involved no pre-cuddling when I finally stopped trying to be the big teddy bear. In fact, in every instance where sex might have resulted from an hour of cuddling the sex was mediocre at best. Trust me, if you have to plead your case for sex by cuddling or the girl is the "cuddle type" you're better off looking for women who're unquestionably ready to go.
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Personally I went this route in my misguided AFC youth and I can speak from experience that the hottest sex I've ever had involved no pre-cuddling when I finally stopped trying to be the big teddy bear. In fact, in every instance where sex might have resulted from an hour of cuddling the sex was mediocre at best. Trust me, if you have to plead your case for sex by cuddling or the girl is the "cuddle type" you're better off looking for women who're unquestionably ready to go.
RT is the truth.
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
I'm not against cuddling after sex. In fact, this is particularly useful as a reinforcer for a chick to continue having sex with you. .
Iv'e said it before in a different thread, that cuddling should be a reward for her after having sex with you and not before.
 

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realsmoothie said:
I don't care if it's my place or hers... if I'm cuddling I'm assuming she wants more. Of course... it may not be all-out f*cking...

You get it, smoothie. Assume the sale, plain and simple.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJDamage said:
Iv'e said it before in a different thread, that cuddling should be a reward for her after having sex with you and not before.
Call me a p*ssy... but this is really sad. I thought girls LIKED sex (assuming you're doing something right)... since when is it some kind of exchange system where you get your d*ck wet and she gets a cuddle?
 

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realsmoothie said:
Call me a p*ssy... but this is really sad. I thought girls LIKED sex (assuming you're doing something right)... since when is it some kind of exchange system where you get your d*ck wet and she gets a cuddle?
Relationship is an exchange system and its mostley done on a subconscious level. She gets something and so do you. That is why there are alot of AFC's out there with oneitis because they became surrogate boyfriends to those chicks and give them their undivided attention and as a result the chicks don't feel the need to sleep with them while they go fvck the other guy who gives them some attention which warrant the sex.
 

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DJDamage said:
Relationship is an exchange system and its mostley done on a subconscious level. She gets something and so do you. That is why there are alot of AFC's out there with oneitis because they became surrogate boyfriends to those chicks and give them their undivided attention and as a result the chicks don't feel the need to sleep with them while they go fvck the other guy who gives them some attention which warrant the sex.
But my point is that that "something" can be the same for both parties. I LIKE to cuddle, and most of the girls I know LIKE the sex. It's not a "trade".

I realize that not all girls are the same. But any girl *I* want is going to want to f*ck me as much as I want to f*ck them. Otherwise it feels fake.
 
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