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Does cuddling = sex

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Vulpine said:
I'll remind you here, if she's on your couch, she's in-bounds. Your house, your couch, your woman. If she didn't want to fux, she wouldn't be there, or she can leave, yeah?

I don't care if it's my place or hers... if I'm cuddling I'm assuming she wants more. Of course... it may not be all-out f*cking...
 

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I'm not against cuddling after sex. In fact, this is particularly useful as a reinforcer for a chick to continue having sex with you. But the cuddle b!tch is a different situation. This is a woman using an AFC to give her security with no expectation of reciprocating anything sexual, but the guy still clings to the hope that something might happen.

Personally I went this route in my misguided AFC youth and I can speak from experience that the hottest sex I've ever had involved no pre-cuddling when I finally stopped trying to be the big teddy bear. In fact, in every instance where sex might have resulted from an hour of cuddling the sex was mediocre at best. Trust me, if you have to plead your case for sex by cuddling or the girl is the "cuddle type" you're better off looking for women who're unquestionably ready to go.
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Personally I went this route in my misguided AFC youth and I can speak from experience that the hottest sex I've ever had involved no pre-cuddling when I finally stopped trying to be the big teddy bear. In fact, in every instance where sex might have resulted from an hour of cuddling the sex was mediocre at best. Trust me, if you have to plead your case for sex by cuddling or the girl is the "cuddle type" you're better off looking for women who're unquestionably ready to go.
RT is the truth.
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
I'm not against cuddling after sex. In fact, this is particularly useful as a reinforcer for a chick to continue having sex with you. .
Iv'e said it before in a different thread, that cuddling should be a reward for her after having sex with you and not before.
 

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realsmoothie said:
I don't care if it's my place or hers... if I'm cuddling I'm assuming she wants more. Of course... it may not be all-out f*cking...

You get it, smoothie. Assume the sale, plain and simple.
 

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DJDamage said:
Iv'e said it before in a different thread, that cuddling should be a reward for her after having sex with you and not before.
Call me a p*ssy... but this is really sad. I thought girls LIKED sex (assuming you're doing something right)... since when is it some kind of exchange system where you get your d*ck wet and she gets a cuddle?
 

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realsmoothie said:
Call me a p*ssy... but this is really sad. I thought girls LIKED sex (assuming you're doing something right)... since when is it some kind of exchange system where you get your d*ck wet and she gets a cuddle?
Relationship is an exchange system and its mostley done on a subconscious level. She gets something and so do you. That is why there are alot of AFC's out there with oneitis because they became surrogate boyfriends to those chicks and give them their undivided attention and as a result the chicks don't feel the need to sleep with them while they go fvck the other guy who gives them some attention which warrant the sex.
 

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Relationship is an exchange system and its mostley done on a subconscious level. She gets something and so do you. That is why there are alot of AFC's out there with oneitis because they became surrogate boyfriends to those chicks and give them their undivided attention and as a result the chicks don't feel the need to sleep with them while they go fvck the other guy who gives them some attention which warrant the sex.
But my point is that that "something" can be the same for both parties. I LIKE to cuddle, and most of the girls I know LIKE the sex. It's not a "trade".

I realize that not all girls are the same. But any girl *I* want is going to want to f*ck me as much as I want to f*ck them. Otherwise it feels fake.
 
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