this is a MAJOR ****ing problem that i HATE and i was wondering if anyone had any advice. damn near every time i talk to a girl, after the conversation is over no less then a minute later, i start coming up with all these ideas and other things that would have made the convo way better. it really does suck! im sure im not the only one who goes thru. its like after the convo is over i start coming up with the perfect things i could have said but didnt have them in my brain at the time.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
does anyone else have this problem?
- Thread starter mark420
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
It's called "20/20 Hindsight", my Darling, and everyone has it. We think of the perfect thing to say, or the perfect thing to do about 20 minutes after the oppertunity has passed.
Feel free to smack your self in the forhead and go "DUH!" Everone around you will sigh and smile remembering they have had the exact same experience.
....we need a smilie that beats his head against a wall...I saw one like it before...
Feel free to smack your self in the forhead and go "DUH!" Everone around you will sigh and smile remembering they have had the exact same experience.
....we need a smilie that beats his head against a wall...I saw one like it before...
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Yep, definitely related to me, and to some extent, it still does today. It's probably a telling of how much value you're putting into that particular woman which in turn puts a lot of pressure on you to come up with something clever to say. But what also happens is that you start second guessing what you're gonna say and then you end up not having confidence in anything you say. Later on when you're not with that person, you have no pressure at all on you and all of these ideas start flowing in.
An inner game problem and not one that can be so easily fixed, for most of us anyways.
An inner game problem and not one that can be so easily fixed, for most of us anyways.
Don't worry about it. Things will be better with time. The trick is to stick with what works and what doesn't.
However, once you've reached the peak of your game, you REALLY don't care if you messed up on saying something.
However, once you've reached the peak of your game, you REALLY don't care if you messed up on saying something.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
hah.. happens all the time.
damn man... its like u get those soooo perfect things u could have said... sometimes when im thinking this way, i laugh.. it sounds funny to me! so dont beat urself, instead laugh bout it(coz u dont really care anymore, takes u to what allurre said), this will chear u up! put a huge smile on ur face n keep walking!
I'd say.. ure on the right track to Don Juan! so good luck !
damn man... its like u get those soooo perfect things u could have said... sometimes when im thinking this way, i laugh.. it sounds funny to me! so dont beat urself, instead laugh bout it(coz u dont really care anymore, takes u to what allurre said), this will chear u up! put a huge smile on ur face n keep walking!
I'd say.. ure on the right track to Don Juan! so good luck !