"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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does anyone else have this problem?

mark420

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this is a MAJOR ****ing problem that i HATE and i was wondering if anyone had any advice. damn near every time i talk to a girl, after the conversation is over no less then a minute later, i start coming up with all these ideas and other things that would have made the convo way better. it really does suck! im sure im not the only one who goes thru. its like after the convo is over i start coming up with the perfect things i could have said but didnt have them in my brain at the time.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It's called "20/20 Hindsight", my Darling, and everyone has it. We think of the perfect thing to say, or the perfect thing to do about 20 minutes after the oppertunity has passed.

Feel free to smack your self in the forhead and go "DUH!" Everone around you will sigh and smile remembering they have had the exact same experience.



....we need a smilie that beats his head against a wall...I saw one like it before...
 

War Against Betaism

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Yep, definitely related to me, and to some extent, it still does today. It's probably a telling of how much value you're putting into that particular woman which in turn puts a lot of pressure on you to come up with something clever to say. But what also happens is that you start second guessing what you're gonna say and then you end up not having confidence in anything you say. Later on when you're not with that person, you have no pressure at all on you and all of these ideas start flowing in.

An inner game problem and not one that can be so easily fixed, for most of us anyways.
 

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it's all experience man, the more experience you have the more these threads will come to mind as you're talking. but for now just have fun and don't kick yourself for what happened before.
 

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Don't worry about it. Things will be better with time. The trick is to stick with what works and what doesn't.

However, once you've reached the peak of your game, you REALLY don't care if you messed up on saying something.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hah.. happens all the time.
damn man... its like u get those soooo perfect things u could have said... sometimes when im thinking this way, i laugh.. it sounds funny to me! so dont beat urself, instead laugh bout it(coz u dont really care anymore, takes u to what allurre said), this will chear u up! put a huge smile on ur face n keep walking!
I'd say.. ure on the right track to Don Juan! so good luck !
 
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