this is a MAJOR ****ing problem that i HATE and i was wondering if anyone had any advice. damn near every time i talk to a girl, after the conversation is over no less then a minute later, i start coming up with all these ideas and other things that would have made the convo way better. it really does suck! im sure im not the only one who goes thru. its like after the convo is over i start coming up with the perfect things i could have said but didnt have them in my brain at the time.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
does anyone else have this problem?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
It's called "20/20 Hindsight", my Darling, and everyone has it. We think of the perfect thing to say, or the perfect thing to do about 20 minutes after the oppertunity has passed.
Feel free to smack your self in the forhead and go "DUH!" Everone around you will sigh and smile remembering they have had the exact same experience.
....we need a smilie that beats his head against a wall...I saw one like it before...
Feel free to smack your self in the forhead and go "DUH!" Everone around you will sigh and smile remembering they have had the exact same experience.
....we need a smilie that beats his head against a wall...I saw one like it before...
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Yep, definitely related to me, and to some extent, it still does today. It's probably a telling of how much value you're putting into that particular woman which in turn puts a lot of pressure on you to come up with something clever to say. But what also happens is that you start second guessing what you're gonna say and then you end up not having confidence in anything you say. Later on when you're not with that person, you have no pressure at all on you and all of these ideas start flowing in.
An inner game problem and not one that can be so easily fixed, for most of us anyways.
An inner game problem and not one that can be so easily fixed, for most of us anyways.
Don't worry about it. Things will be better with time. The trick is to stick with what works and what doesn't.
However, once you've reached the peak of your game, you REALLY don't care if you messed up on saying something.
However, once you've reached the peak of your game, you REALLY don't care if you messed up on saying something.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
hah.. happens all the time.
damn man... its like u get those soooo perfect things u could have said... sometimes when im thinking this way, i laugh.. it sounds funny to me! so dont beat urself, instead laugh bout it(coz u dont really care anymore, takes u to what allurre said), this will chear u up! put a huge smile on ur face n keep walking!
I'd say.. ure on the right track to Don Juan! so good luck !
damn man... its like u get those soooo perfect things u could have said... sometimes when im thinking this way, i laugh.. it sounds funny to me! so dont beat urself, instead laugh bout it(coz u dont really care anymore, takes u to what allurre said), this will chear u up! put a huge smile on ur face n keep walking!
I'd say.. ure on the right track to Don Juan! so good luck !