"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Does anyone else carry a pack of women they have no interest in?

ManOMan

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Im in a strange state, I currently have no one I really like. I have a load of like 5-6 girls that I go out with, but I just dont feel a connection with any of them.

The girls I normally like are typically infatuation based. and I go through this cycle like once or twice a year. Most of these women are unavailable, but they just totally captivate my interest and I spend fruitless amounts of time pursuing them.

I just go out with these other women, so I dont go crazy from lonlieness and also to keep my confidence level up. But sometimes I think its counterproductive to keep these women around.

Have any of you other men just wished for once you meet a girl you like and its reciprocal? Should I maintain contact with these women I have no interest in?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Those are always good to have around just for a quick ego boost or off-night fillers. Just have enough to have a long rotation so as to not see any one of them too frequently. You wouldn't want them to feel as if you are looking for more than friendship just because you are spending a lot of time with them.
 

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Yeah man, i think a lot of us do this. I have an enterouge of up to 10 different girls from different schools I'll go out with, and none of them really fit thebill. I just use them to keep myself in practice, raise my attraction level to other girls, and just have fun overall.
 

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Hmm I also was in the same situation, I used to wonder if it made me look gay going to parties with a buncha girls. I then realized though that since i carry myself very confidently and also know all the guys at alot of the parties and that live across the hall from where we hang.. that its no big deal.

I also hang around a buncha fine girls that i have no connection with, just mostly friends. Its cool though because they drink alot and always have people hanging out and bring other girls around. Sometimes though if im at a party and its a sausage fest, the only girls at the entire party are like the 6 girls that I know, which sucks for me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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thanks for the input,

Another problem is these girls im not interested in, call me, and when I dont return their call they get pissed and leave nasty messages, its more like a chore going out with these women.

Its a case, where I wish I had quality over quantity
 

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Originally posted by ManOMan
thanks for the input,

Another problem is these girls im not interested in, call me, and when I dont return their call they get pissed and leave nasty messages, its more like a chore going out with these women.

Its a case, where I wish I had quality over quantity
Just make sure that you are in no way leading them on. You may need to look back at things you've said or done while around them that they could read into.

One way that I had worked around that problem is that I would never go out with them alone. Also, I never gave them more attention than any other woman in our group and I also flirted out rightly with all of the women in the group or in the club.

Just make sure you have enough of these woman so as not to spend too much time with any one of them. Also it wouldn't hurt to meet new ones and rotate out the ones that require more upkeep.
 

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Originally posted by ManOMan
thanks for the input,

Another problem is these girls im not interested in, call me, and when I dont return their call they get pissed and leave nasty messages, its more like a chore going out with these women.

Its a case, where I wish I had quality over quantity

Um....get quality?
Seriously that will fix everything.
You obviously are attractive to women,
Just do it.
 
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