"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Does anyone carry a cheat sheet?

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THE_ADDMAN said:
crutchs are fine, but only until you're ready to walk on your own.

dont get used to them.

write your cheat sheet with less, and less on it each time u go out, until its only a blank sheet. then its all up to you :D
Why put an extra step in? Especially when its not necessary. It's like using bumpers in bowling. Yea if you get it right it works. But you lose a whole dynamic when you do it. The pro's aren't practicing with bumpers, I am willing to wager they didn't ever use them. Why? Because it isn't part of the game, so why get conditioned to need it in the first place?

This place is the crutch, it is the cheat sheet. Everyone here should eventually out grow asking for advice, on most things. Not extending the cheat sheet further out.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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For those of you saying that using cheat sheets is unnatural blah blah blah... didn't mommy ever help you stay up when you were learning how to walk? And didn't you ever have training wheels on your bike? When you write/wrote papers for school, don't/didn't you ever use a dictionary?

Yeah, thought so.
 

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Fred Da Head said:
didn't mommy ever help you stay up when you were learning how to walk?
This analogy would fit more with "get a wingman" not "get a cheat sheet.

And didn't you ever have training wheels on your bike?
This analogy would fit with "get a support system to keep you going (aka sosuave.com)" not "get a cheat sheet

When you write/wrote papers for school, don't/didn't you ever use a dictionary?
Not on the test I didn't.
 
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Fred Da Head said:
For those of you saying that using cheat sheets is unnatural blah blah blah... didn't mommy ever help you stay up when you were learning how to walk? And didn't you ever have training wheels on your bike? When you write/wrote papers for school, don't/didn't you ever use a dictionary?

Yeah, thought so.

Gaming girls is not like walking or riding a bike on flat ground. Its more like mountain riding off trail. There are some similarities in how you handle jumps, and obstacles but there are so many factors, training wheels just wont cut it. The terrain is never the same, there is nothing to prepare you for doing it besides practice and the guts to do it. You have to fall, you have to fail, its what makes or breaks you.

The dictionary is used for homework, not in the field.
 

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Charm said:
Once again, this is your BELIEF and has no bearing on what is actually true. Who are you to say what cheat sheets are for? What if a guy has the goal of just getting laid and practicing C&F and used cheat sheets on dates when he got nervous and consistently got laid as a result of it? According to your belief, he should have only been using it for work and school but if he shared your belief, he'd be at home humping his hand.

My point is that if a person wants to use a cheat sheet, thats fine, let them. It is a crutch that at some point will need to be removed. Your generalizations are only true if you buy into believing they are.
Well there in lies the difference between you and I. I enjoy talking to women and even more so respect the flow of a good conversation. I don't need to have a cheat sheet, because I don't NEED to lay women to feel good about myself.

From what you're saying, it seems to me as if you view women as a task to be completed. Fine, to each his own.

Of course my belief has no bearing on what anyone else does, that's why it's my belief! It's a matter of opinion. As for humping his hand, I don't know what you believe I do all day, but I can guarantee you I don't exactly have all day to rub one out :p

Best of luck to ya
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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