"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Does Absense Make The Heart Grow Fonder.??

dalton

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Does absence make the heart grow fonder.

Any Thoughts.

For me I suppose initially this is true you miss someone increasingly with time spent apart. However at a certain point there starts to be in economic terms, diminishing returns. It becomes an inverse relationship, up until the point where you have absolutely no emotions left for the other person.

And is this the same principal as no contact???
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DonGorgon said:
Only if you have reach the second stage of attraction form her... If you have not, then Absense gives other men the opportunity they have been waiting for...
Hit the nail on the head. Even if you have reached this stage of attraction, long time apart gives much time for rethinking and curiosity. So I don't know if it's a woman you are fond of that you are talking about, but don't be surprised if that long time apart may have changed things.
 

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Suuuure.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Then what the hell are ganji games for? Sometimes the advice on this board is so contradictory. Time apart works when a girl breaks up with you, because it "gives her the gift of missing you", but now you morons say it changes things for the worse?

Make up your damn minds.
 

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mrRuckus

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dalton said:
Does absence make the heart grow fonder.

Sayings don't mean sh1t.

"Out of sight, out of mind." Remember that one too?
 

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Tell you what......how bout this...let me know where you live...you be absent from your girl for two weeks and let me mack on her......$1000 says she be suckin on my dyck and i'll be hittin it doggie style after day 4
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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