Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If a guy has seriously solid photos, then going for meetup on first message can work.. also I'd say that is more doable in bigger cities like NYC, etc. For guys with photos that are less than amazing, we've found the best ratio of time invested vs results is a FEW messages back and forth, like 3 or 4 messages, then close for number/ get together. I also feel that if you're only getting girls that give the number on first message, you're filtering out some of the higher quality women that need a little more conversation before giving up the number.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Yeah you made a great point I neglected to mention.. a guy doesn't have to be AMAZING looking to have AMAZING photos. There is a big difference. Any guy can express that his lifestyle is social, fun, and awesome to be a part of through photos. If you are fit, dress well, great looking, then you're life will be alittle easier, but I have clients that are legit model looking guys (no homo lol) yet had horrible boring photos and no skills at closing for meetups, etc.
That certainly may be the best advice for most guys. But for what it's worth, I do the opposite. I exchange a lot of messages with girls right away, and I use that to filter out the ones who seem the least interested in sex. Written communication is my strong point, and I will typically have a girl talking to me about sex before we have met. With other girls, they just need to exchange a lot of mundane text messages in order to be comfortable enough to fvck on the first date.
Thanks man! Yeah me and my team are definitely passionate about helping our clients out, its hugely rewarding when you get them results they previously thought were impossible. We often go above and beyond what they pay for and spend extra time explaining to them how to text, set up dates with high chances of success, and overall get the right mindset.. an abundance mindset instead of a scarcity, fear based one. The link to my site is in my signature if you're curious enough to check it out