You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DJVladdy said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Im sure you consider yourself an intelligent individual, however, youre saying some dumb sh*t. What does too dark for comfort mean? Black people make others feel uncomfortable because of their skin? Or because the stereotypes that go along with being black. It really doesnt take a lot for a black guy in america. Im black and know plenty of black guys who are doing fine. This isnt the 1960s.DJVladdy said:
This is probably on of the biggest fallacies, and demonstrates a bias on your part. Put 50 cent next to some attractive white guy...who do you think shell pick? Or is that not fair to do? Put Brad Pitt next to 50 Cent and im sure there will be a relatively normal distribution.
I might check out those links but I'm not very happy with the word asian. The word 'asian' pretty much puts over half the world into one big group. There are enormous differences. How can you even compare a thin short nerdy chinese guy to a tall good looking stocky fair skinned lebanese guy who looks mediterranean, it's ridiculous. My point was, every single couple I see in real life is a white guy and some other female, whether white/chinese/indian/whatever. I also think you've misunderstood another point. I believe that 'non white and middle class guys' do attract women, but the women decide not to date them because social conditoning says to go for the white middle class guy thats seen as superior, even if in an attribute sense he is worse.Jitterbug said:
Fair point, but where I live, Asian refers to East Asians and South East Asians.Mad Manic said:
You see what you want to see. When I used to be bothered by race, all I saw was white guys getting all the chicks and minority guys walking alone. Now that I'm not, I see the other side too, that minority guys can do the same if they step up.
Chicks on internet dating sites all have long shopping lists and no living man can possibly fulfill them all. They may say they want a white guy, but if you sweep them off their feet, preferably with some mind-blowing orgasms, they'll say something like "Wow, I've never considered dating a minority guy but you're so amazing" afterwards.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
He never said 50 cent looked better than Brad Pitt dumb@$$DjDan said:
DjDan said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Well I posted about my own surveys at my own uni which summed it up for me, whereby in a uni where 1/3 are white, 1/3 chinese, 1/3 indian 194/200 white girls date white guys and 17/25 also noted were indian/chinese girls dating white guys. Half the white guys were single, 11/12 indian guys were single.everywomanshero said:
