"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Does a girl have to be totally single to ask her out?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Furyguy
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Kupid Diggs
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Kupid Diggs said:
That's what I'm thinking. It's not like single girls wear bright neon signs announcing their availability. Attractive females don't stay single long. The boundaries I won't cross are living together or engaged. I met this chick who's my type through and through, and we really hit it off. The funny thing is, I was just whining about black girls aren't my type and she's black. But she can pass for a white girl.
lol
Any man here needs to look at it from the perspective of what you want.nonameok said:
I believe that if you are looking for a relationship with a girl, then there's a certain line you should never cross with her if she's in a relationship (whether it be just a boyfriend or she's married). ALWAYS remember that if she crosses that line with YOU, she'll cross that line with someone else while WITH you. You don't want a relationship with a girl like that.
But, if you're just looking to get laid, then a girl who has a boyfriend is fair game. I still wouldn't advise going after married women, because that's way too much drama/work/headache just to get a piece of a$$.
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bukowski_merit
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true...Kupid Diggs said:
and i disagree fully with the idea that if a woman leaves a guy to be with you (or cheats), that she will do it to you. in most cases - these women are dating AFCs. i've seen it debated on if you should let a girl complain about her BF to you (you don't want to become an emotional tampon, etc) - but i really find value in listening to them (to use a pua nerd term - i like to 'elicit value' from their complaints of current or former boyfriends)... and if you listen to their complaints - you can normally understand why she's not happy with what she has (and then feed it back to her like it was your idea)...
in the strange event she is dating someone alpha who knows what he's doing - then yes, there is no hope for her!... but most women who cheat just aren't happy with the neediness, the protectieness, or the boringness of the man they're dating...
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
'game' doesn't have a whole lot to do with what i'm talking about... most AFC who find out their girl cheated on them - TAKE THE GIRLS BACK! because their idiots who believe in things such as "forgiving those i've given my heart to". most girls who cheat don't have a huge fear of losing the guy their with, or they don't care if they lose the guy their with.... getting a girl who's with a man who knows what he's doing - is MUCH MUCH harder than getting a girl who's with an AFC (because she genuinely doesn't want to lose him)... it's like a house without a security system (AFC house) vs. a house with a security system (DJ house). a professional thief will see the one with the secutiry system as being too much trouble. they'll only go into the house if they think the risk is worth the reward (and often they can find a house without a security system to enter that has similar goods).Trajhenkhet01 said:
DonGorgon
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You will seldom find a girl who is 100% completely disconnected and single.. most girls above a hb5 have a few f buddies and X's etc.. SO DONT FOCUS OIN THAT.. KUST TRY AND BE THE NEXT GUY SHE Fs.. there were many before you and there will be many after you too..nonameok said: