"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Does a girl have to be totally single to ask her out?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Furyguy
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Kupid Diggs
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Kupid Diggs said:
That's what I'm thinking. It's not like single girls wear bright neon signs announcing their availability. Attractive females don't stay single long. The boundaries I won't cross are living together or engaged. I met this chick who's my type through and through, and we really hit it off. The funny thing is, I was just whining about black girls aren't my type and she's black. But she can pass for a white girl.
lol
Any man here needs to look at it from the perspective of what you want.nonameok said:
I believe that if you are looking for a relationship with a girl, then there's a certain line you should never cross with her if she's in a relationship (whether it be just a boyfriend or she's married). ALWAYS remember that if she crosses that line with YOU, she'll cross that line with someone else while WITH you. You don't want a relationship with a girl like that.
But, if you're just looking to get laid, then a girl who has a boyfriend is fair game. I still wouldn't advise going after married women, because that's way too much drama/work/headache just to get a piece of a$$.
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bukowski_merit
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true...Kupid Diggs said:
and i disagree fully with the idea that if a woman leaves a guy to be with you (or cheats), that she will do it to you. in most cases - these women are dating AFCs. i've seen it debated on if you should let a girl complain about her BF to you (you don't want to become an emotional tampon, etc) - but i really find value in listening to them (to use a pua nerd term - i like to 'elicit value' from their complaints of current or former boyfriends)... and if you listen to their complaints - you can normally understand why she's not happy with what she has (and then feed it back to her like it was your idea)...
in the strange event she is dating someone alpha who knows what he's doing - then yes, there is no hope for her!... but most women who cheat just aren't happy with the neediness, the protectieness, or the boringness of the man they're dating...
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
bukowski_merit
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'game' doesn't have a whole lot to do with what i'm talking about... most AFC who find out their girl cheated on them - TAKE THE GIRLS BACK! because their idiots who believe in things such as "forgiving those i've given my heart to". most girls who cheat don't have a huge fear of losing the guy their with, or they don't care if they lose the guy their with.... getting a girl who's with a man who knows what he's doing - is MUCH MUCH harder than getting a girl who's with an AFC (because she genuinely doesn't want to lose him)... it's like a house without a security system (AFC house) vs. a house with a security system (DJ house). a professional thief will see the one with the secutiry system as being too much trouble. they'll only go into the house if they think the risk is worth the reward (and often they can find a house without a security system to enter that has similar goods).Trajhenkhet01 said:
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You will seldom find a girl who is 100% completely disconnected and single.. most girls above a hb5 have a few f buddies and X's etc.. SO DONT FOCUS OIN THAT.. KUST TRY AND BE THE NEXT GUY SHE Fs.. there were many before you and there will be many after you too..nonameok said: