penkitten said:
a true man forgives, but learns from it, and never forgets.
And how about a TRUE women, what does she do, does she carry on and assume since he as forgiven she wont do it again, or does she now think she as a ticket to bad behaviour now which is it.
i can answer the question actually:
A true women would learn she as crossed the line, ACTUALLY a true women would have not crossed the line to begin with, so the question in a real relationship that should not come up imo, now this is for things where it is clearly a huge issue and not something like not doing the washing up or her forgetting a date arrangement.
So lets say a TRUE women is one that messed up for some reason:
She rocognized she fuc*ed up and now is trying to correct it, then granted a true man if it is in his interest to forgive, could forgive, but no MAN should be expected to forgive simply to fit into a 'real man always forgives' slot.
A real man to me would waigh up the situation and think about the impact it as had on him and the relationship and waigh up the best situation and then attribute forgiveness on what he percieves it to be, not automaticly try to get a badge of 'forgive to be a true man' much like the try to get a badge of 'D J'.
Anyway as RT said.
no point dragging around baggage it will just slow you down and add another complication to your life!
that is why i would suggest depending on the mans original path to stick to it, ie if she as crossed the line and made something rather hard to ignore and threatens the balance of the relationship and he decides to walk, only a fool would go back for round two when it would be clear, nothing as changed apart from the man trying to slot into 'a real man would forgive' badge slot.
trust me i have slotted into the ideal of forgive man.
It as always and i mean always been just as shi* as it was, from the situation i left.
And lets get something cleared this is not a one time deal this is alot of relationships.
A women from my experiance even if forgiven, will still in time go back to her old ways, just remember that if what she did was very hard to ignore.
i have found, each time the always after a certain amount of time, when comfort as settled back into the relationship always go back to the bad behavoiur, but i guess this is the MANS fault and not the womens, right?
Dont keep bagage, it will only complicate your life.
as I do.