"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Does a DJ cheat?

Murse

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A question on ethics for you... As being a DJ is almost a way of life.

If you're dating a girl would you cheat on her for a hotter girl?

Oh and also, whats your opinions of girls asking if you've got Facebook? They obviously want to add you.... is that a good or a bad thing?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dbx

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I hate cheating and always will.

If you want her to be exclusive, you should be too.
 

patrick.de

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doesn't sound really DJ to ask that kind of questions in an online forum and (possibly) base your own opinion upon the responses you get there.

if you have peace of mind while cheating and believe it's in your best interest, do it. if you hate cheating and have moral obligations, don't do it.

if you want to add a girl on facebook to keep in touch with her, do it.
if you don't want to add her because you don't like big social networks and all the crap associated with them, don't do it.

do whatever feels right to you and you're good. don't do what other people tell you to do, that's not DJ.
 

MM92

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Nope, don't agree with it. Although I have done it many times myself I plan to never do it again.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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"DJ" at its core is not about morals and ethics. It is about attracting women.

DJ's can be faithful or cheaters. In some ways being a DJ is like holding a weapon. The weapon does not abide by a set of morals or codes. It only does what the holder desires.
 

Zerro

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To me if you're cheating: you're not a DJ, you're just another PUA.
 

Murse

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
"DJ" at its core is not about morals and ethics. It is about attracting women.

DJ's can be faithful or cheaters. In some ways being a DJ is like holding a weapon. The weapon does not abide by a set of morals or codes. It only does what the holder desires.
Well done for getting through that without the star wars analogy... I was waiting on it haha. But yeah, I understand what you're saying.

I'm not in a relationship at the moment so can't cheat but there was a time when I was tested with a very hot girl... nothing came of it but it's always when you're in a relationship isn't it.....

Interesting to hear peoples views on it. I agree that a DJ should not cheat.
 

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If you cheat, your emotions will show and women are 10x better on reading emotions than men. If you lie, they know. Women have evolved over millions of years to detect a cheater/liar.

I hate people who cheat and I will never cheat.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i have cheated, once when i was younger, its not something i will do again.
Being DJ, you should be mature enough to accept your own decision to be exclusive. if this becomes too much of a burden, then break up.
 

J Roc

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why cheat? if you want to bang a bunch of chicks just stay single and have as much fun as you want...
 

Zerro

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J Roc said:
why cheat? if you want to bang a bunch of chicks just stay single and have as much fun as you want...
Exactly, if you don't intend to be faithful then don't get into a relationship to begin with. If a chick wants one and you don't just be honest about it.
 

Desdinova

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
"DJ" at its core is not about morals and ethics. It is about attracting women.
The way I've always seen it is the DJ's personal goal is to have a happy and successful life. When that goal is accomplished, you get the side-effect of having an abundance of women interested in you. What you choose to do with these women is entirely up to you as long as you're content with the lifestyle that you're living.
 

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If I am not exclusive with a girl, than it doesn't matter who I date or have sex with. If I am exclusive with a girl, I would not cheat and sleep with other women. I wouldn't want her doing that to me either. If things aren't working out, it would be best to break off the relationship and than move on.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Really just depends on the person and situation. Live by your own code!
 

Boilermaker

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From my point of view, I never cheat. I just live like a man.

But it all depends on how you dress the particle, that is, how you define the word "cheat" ..

My definitions tend to draw some fire.

(especially from MANginas)
 
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