"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Arewedoomed

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Do women make fake dating profiles to **** with their exes?

Here's what happened to me: I saw the profile of an ex in which she claimed she made the profile so she can match with her current boyfriend so they can see their old chat messages. If that was the case, then why did she make up a new profile that is completely different from her old one? What would the odds be that I happened to be on to see it? I sometimes text her friend that claims she doesn't say things to my ex, but I think the friend said I blocked them all on facebook and someone spent the night. I didn't bang the person.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Clockwerk50

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It’s confirmation bias. You already had a suspicion, so your brain started connecting dots to support what you wanted to believe. Confirmation bias is when you look for evidence that proves your belief while ignoring what doesn’t. The reality is, it could’ve been nothing.
 
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Prepostereax

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Once you've ex'd someone, you shouldn't be bothered what or why they say or do anything.
Who knows, if she was really hot, maybe the fake profile is a catfish of her (you still shouldn't care).

Once ex'd, it's sayonara, ciao, asta la vista baby~


If you're still in contact with her friends, why?
Keep in mind that a female mutual friend is of course still talking to your ex *(so what?), but she's not going to discuss that with you - which is totally appropriate and respectful, and she ought to naturally empathise with your ex more than with you, she simply wants to preserve both friendships..

..unless she's interested in banging you..

If she starts talking about it and taking your side, something's up..
{I'm not saying this is a wise move, if this is the case, more of a potential opportunity.}
 

BaronOfHair

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If that was the case, then why did she make up a new profile that is completely different from her old one?
It's not her, hoss. The machines are establishing dominion over the planet, and it's THEY, not your ex, who created this profile. Soon, they'll be sending All Terrain Armored Transports throughout the globe, for the express purpose of branding everyone with the mark of 666
 

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This is the kind of thing where I would just laugh, block, and move on.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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