"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you "TRY" to live by the Sosuave standards to pick up women?

verysuave

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Just so you guys know, I try not to live by this website's "standards" cause I think it makes me go crazy unless you are really that person.

Reading TOO much into this could swing the pendulum a little TOO far to the left or to the right which could even possibly ruin your game instead of improving it.

What you guys think?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Chase Dat Skuht

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That's why you need to self improve and make success a habit.

Also, you dont want to read too much into it. You need to get out and do it.

For example take my journal that's in my sig. I've read information.. and I'm starting to put it to use and ingrain everything into my mind to self improve.
 

lookyoung

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No, I go against a lot of the rules on sosuave.

1. I will buy a girl a drink.
2. I will usually pay on date.
3. If I meet a girl I don't follow the 3 day rule. Will call next day.
4. I don't use lines or magic tricks.

Some people go too far with the rules. Be confident and everything you do will be proper.
 

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lookyoung said:
No, I go against a lot of the rules on sosuave.

1. I will buy a girl a drink.
2. I will usually pay on date.
3. If I meet a girl I don't follow the 3 day rule. Will call next day.
4. I don't use lines or magic tricks.

Some people go too far with the rules. Be confident and everything you do will be proper.
wat he said. i myself break a lot of rules too, and may appear "AFC". but i do everything with confidence, and girls still like it.

P.S. lol 3 day rule is junk. i call when ever i feel.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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banGbro

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Ive had a pleasure to grow up amongst a few guys who are naturally good with women, and now I work amongst guys who are naturally good with women. And let me tell you something, when I first read some of the stuff in DJ bible and DDs material, I knew right away it was real deal. Because all this material describes the dudes I knew..

Among other things I had a misfortune of becoming an AFC from early on. Around 8 I think, I was made fun of by my chick cousin and her chick friend, about my penis size, that toally ruined my confidence, self esteem, and everything else for the next 16 or so years.. :whistle:

Let me tell you, the only hope for AFCs is studying this science, and practicing. The latter is the most important, a single day of interaction with a woman can equal to spending half a year reading into things.


My advice is to assume everything in DJ bible, DD, and other well known material is correct. If you have doubts, and youre not a successful DJ, that can only mean you are limiting yourself.
 

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I tend to think that taking the general ideas helps.

Remembering specific lines or tips is rediculous and is almost always done by some tool who will never understand women.

Get the general guidelines in your head (Look Good, Confidence, Flirt, etc) and take it from there. Create your own game, and have fun with it. If you're relying on specific techniques or materials, then you're really just doing more work. Make if fun, this isn't school. It's pleasure.
 

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i follow guidelines.. and its defenitly changed me as a person. I think the biggest weapon a guy has is the ability to just do other things and not focus on the chick.

its a weapon because lets say you have a great time with a girl and she's living it up with you that nite and then you don't call for 2 days because your "busy" all it does is create more of a "feeling" towards you because your this guy that has so much to do.

it works everytime as long as the girls intrest level is consistant. i woulda never have thought about doing crap like that until i came here.. and let me tell you IT WORKS
 

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Sosuave rules only work on some girls. A slvt don't care if you don't call or if you say you love her she don't care you can do what ever you want. Also being push pull with some girls can make em not like you cuz you dont like em enough.

Fvck the rules. Go with the gut. I say what ever I want to woman. Just if you say you love em, make it ****y. Make em somewhat doubt you meant by your body actions and frame.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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christz said:
i follow guidelines.. and its defenitly changed me as a person. I think the biggest weapon a guy has is the ability to just do other things and not focus on the chick.
I believe that understanding and feeling comfortable with this concept allows some guys to go against society standards and play by SoSuave standards (if you want to call them that).
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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