"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Do you "TRY" to live by the Sosuave standards to pick up women?

verysuave

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Just so you guys know, I try not to live by this website's "standards" cause I think it makes me go crazy unless you are really that person.

Reading TOO much into this could swing the pendulum a little TOO far to the left or to the right which could even possibly ruin your game instead of improving it.

What you guys think?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Chase Dat Skuht

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That's why you need to self improve and make success a habit.

Also, you dont want to read too much into it. You need to get out and do it.

For example take my journal that's in my sig. I've read information.. and I'm starting to put it to use and ingrain everything into my mind to self improve.
 

lookyoung

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No, I go against a lot of the rules on sosuave.

1. I will buy a girl a drink.
2. I will usually pay on date.
3. If I meet a girl I don't follow the 3 day rule. Will call next day.
4. I don't use lines or magic tricks.

Some people go too far with the rules. Be confident and everything you do will be proper.
 

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lookyoung said:
No, I go against a lot of the rules on sosuave.

1. I will buy a girl a drink.
2. I will usually pay on date.
3. If I meet a girl I don't follow the 3 day rule. Will call next day.
4. I don't use lines or magic tricks.

Some people go too far with the rules. Be confident and everything you do will be proper.
wat he said. i myself break a lot of rules too, and may appear "AFC". but i do everything with confidence, and girls still like it.

P.S. lol 3 day rule is junk. i call when ever i feel.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ive had a pleasure to grow up amongst a few guys who are naturally good with women, and now I work amongst guys who are naturally good with women. And let me tell you something, when I first read some of the stuff in DJ bible and DDs material, I knew right away it was real deal. Because all this material describes the dudes I knew..

Among other things I had a misfortune of becoming an AFC from early on. Around 8 I think, I was made fun of by my chick cousin and her chick friend, about my penis size, that toally ruined my confidence, self esteem, and everything else for the next 16 or so years.. :whistle:

Let me tell you, the only hope for AFCs is studying this science, and practicing. The latter is the most important, a single day of interaction with a woman can equal to spending half a year reading into things.


My advice is to assume everything in DJ bible, DD, and other well known material is correct. If you have doubts, and youre not a successful DJ, that can only mean you are limiting yourself.
 

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I tend to think that taking the general ideas helps.

Remembering specific lines or tips is rediculous and is almost always done by some tool who will never understand women.

Get the general guidelines in your head (Look Good, Confidence, Flirt, etc) and take it from there. Create your own game, and have fun with it. If you're relying on specific techniques or materials, then you're really just doing more work. Make if fun, this isn't school. It's pleasure.
 

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i follow guidelines.. and its defenitly changed me as a person. I think the biggest weapon a guy has is the ability to just do other things and not focus on the chick.

its a weapon because lets say you have a great time with a girl and she's living it up with you that nite and then you don't call for 2 days because your "busy" all it does is create more of a "feeling" towards you because your this guy that has so much to do.

it works everytime as long as the girls intrest level is consistant. i woulda never have thought about doing crap like that until i came here.. and let me tell you IT WORKS
 

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Sosuave rules only work on some girls. A slvt don't care if you don't call or if you say you love her she don't care you can do what ever you want. Also being push pull with some girls can make em not like you cuz you dont like em enough.

Fvck the rules. Go with the gut. I say what ever I want to woman. Just if you say you love em, make it ****y. Make em somewhat doubt you meant by your body actions and frame.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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christz said:
i follow guidelines.. and its defenitly changed me as a person. I think the biggest weapon a guy has is the ability to just do other things and not focus on the chick.
I believe that understanding and feeling comfortable with this concept allows some guys to go against society standards and play by SoSuave standards (if you want to call them that).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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