"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Poonani Maker

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Do you think that they think in these terms, when sizing you up? Unless you give overt signs of a dominant male, she'll label you as "not getting IT" or what we'd call "an AFC" and pass on you with the wave of her gloved hand nexting you.

Are we performing for them or them for us? They're the choosers however.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hooligan Harry

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I dont think they think like that at all.

I think their first though is, "would I **** this guy". First based on looks and if they find you attractive. This is done within a few seconds. Then they think about what everyone else would think if they found out that they ****ed you. Cos, like, heaven forbid her social circle disapproved.

Once they start talking to you, then you need to cross off requirements on their checklists. Because they are women, those checklists are not set in stone either. They change like the wind on a cold day. They hold as much weight as flat earth theory. They are rational constructs an emotional creature melds to her whims to suit her hormones and mood.

If at first you fail, then she finds out that you are rich you could be back in the game. Her checklist adjusts. Likewise, if at first you fail and then she sees you making out with a bombshell, you are back in the game. Cos, like if that skank likes you, then you must be, like, Awesome. If at first you fail, and then she finds out that you are a drug dealer and sell stolen bikes, you are back in the game.

They perform for us so that we can give them attention. This is like porn to them. They need that attention to see if we meet their criteria. After that, we are performing for them. If we meet their criteria at that time, we get to smash them.
 

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So much of it is subconscious, it's really a matter of the few conscious details she can discern and process that make or break things.

Thats where some things on this site can come into play.
 
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