"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Shivastorm_88

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Quick background: I was supposed to go to her place to give her a massage (happy ending implied) and she flaked on me 2-3 times for various reasons, and I'm supposed to play tennis with her tomorrow...

I will be texting her: "Hey let's go to a motel instead of playing tennis"

Way I see it, worse that can happen is she'll refuse, at which point I'll next her...

Any opinions?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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search1ng

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Why not play tennis with her then tell her to have a shower at your place? or you at hers
 

Huffman

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That's like more of a shocker which is PROBABLY not going to work. But hell, why not. I mean shock her and have fun with her reaction. If she keeps flaking you might as well not take her too seriously. I say do whatever you feel like.
 
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Talk about sounding sleazy... Bold is not bad WHEN COMBINED WITH GOOD FACTORS. Your idea here just sounds plain sleazy. Not sexy, sleazy.

How do you differentiate between the two- sleazy and sexy?

Girls call guys i know- that so much its rediculous.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Strelok

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Why don't you just flake at her for the tennis match?
She flaked 3 times in a row,do you really expect to get something from her except a waste of time?

Have fun and see her reaction when you tell her that there will be no tennis because you got a mission from the cia for tomorrow at that time.
 

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Aazman said:
How do you differentiate between the two- sleazy and sexy?

Girls call guys i know- that so much its rediculous.
It just feels cheap and trashy to suggest taking a woman to a motel. Of course I'm not in his exact situation, I don't know EXACTLY what their relationship is at the moment, but this is my advice.

The more attraction there is, the less chance of coming off as creepy.
 

terran2k

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she's playing that little game of keep the pu$$y away with you now. Just wasting time on your part.
looks to me that you're tired of playing games with her, and you should tell her exactly that. tell her you're not into playing games and you just wanna **** her brains out, I dunno it's your call.

oh yeah, i forget to add, ditch the **** @ motel idea please.
 
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Haha! A motel, huh?

Keep it even more classy and text her "Hey, let's fvck in the dark alley behind my place! Will you have change for a Twenty?"

;)
 

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I say either call her out for the flaking or take your attention off of her and see if she chases.
And a motel? Seriously? In Public > Motel
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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