"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you think this is alpha-Chad behavior?

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This is a letter from someone from the social circle of SCOTUS nominee Brett Kavanaugh and his wingman Mark Judge that seems to show them as being alpha-Chads - in addition, of course, to the allegations of the alleged frotter-sexual assault victim that has been front page news for the last week or so:


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This friend of the alleged victim had asked Judge to her prom, and he stood her up because he had gotten "bombed", and then expressed no remorse.

my opinion: This whole affair reminds me of (take your pick of the many horny-teenage-sex-comedy movies over the years). I also think that the enemies of Kavanaugh are going to try to impress upon women that aside from the assault, Kavanaugh & his bro were the classic alpha-Chad jerks, and now is the time to exact revenge on all those jerks.

Hell hath no fury ...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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