"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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do you think the years i will give away to study will lead me to become an AFC????

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I am twenty years old and I plan on becoming a psychiatrist the thing is i feel like the time i will spend studying i will miss my 20s and will kinda take out of the dating world for a while... finding a HB has never being a problem for me i am quite good looking a girls are hitting on me... the problem is in my younger years used to be an AFC on the inside for some reason i didnt know( all the girls i was into were totally into me some even did some crazy sh!t just to get my attention ) but weirdly i used to run away from them or when they came up to my face and told me their feelings i was always finding an excuse to avoid answering them... and that somehow attracted more girls. Anyway i found this great community and i have been better than ever with the ladies i am more confident and ive been living like a king for the past 6 months.But i think that with my career i wont be able to enjoy the dating life for a decade because of spending a lot of time studying and when i will be ready to date again a HB will be able to Brainwash me somehow
I WILL greatly appreciate your help thanks in advance
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I believe it takes about 8-10 years to go through the process until you are a licensed, practicing psychiatrist making the dough. I suggest you still fvck some girls to keep yourself sane but you will be done with the program sometime between the age of 28-34 Im guessing, right in the prime of your dating years.

You'll be bagging alot of hotties in the future and can make up the numbers then if that is what you are looking for, girls love a successful man, and love a successful DJ even more.
 
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Nevermind about women, women don't put food on your table, a roof over your head and money in your pocket. Sensible men will focus on their careers first and then social life/women second. Also, there's plenty of articles on here that deal with AFCism. So to answer your question, no dedicating the next x amount of year's to study will not make you an AFC.
 

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3countriesPlan said:
I believe it takes about 8-10 years to go through the process until you are a licensed, practicing psychiatrist making the dough. I suggest you still fvck some girls to keep yourself sane but you will be done with the program sometime between the age of 28-34 Im guessing, right in the prime of your dating years.

You'll be bagging alot of hotties in the future and can make up the numbers then if that is what you are looking for, girls love a successful man, and love a successful DJ even more.
yeah i thought of that i really shouldnt care because im pretty sure its always better to be weathy and stable than giving up for "fun"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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perseverance said:
Nevermind about women, women don't put food on your table, a roof over your head and money in your pocket. Sensible men will focus on their careers first and then social life/women second. Also, there's plenty of articles on here that deal with AFCism. So to answer your question, no dedicating the next x amount of year's to study will not make you an AFC.
they really dont and the only thing theyll be good for will be trying to get my money for "the privilege of their pretty eyes" but that wont work on me
 

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MikeBrown30 said:
Get your life/career in order first. I'm not saying to avoid women completely, but there will be plenty of time for poon later down the track.
thanks for the advice
 
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