"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you think the type of group you spend time in can affect the chances of creating attraction?

jhonny9546

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Hi! Johnny here!

As most of you know, I'm an artist.
Right now I work from a small studio, and I recently started a small drawing group for people who simply enjoy drawing together.
At the moment we're five people, two men and three women, all around the same age.

Something I've noticed is how different the group dynamics are.
For example, drawing is all about focus. The atmosphere is quiet, slow, and centered on concentration, technique, and patience.
Then, a fitness group is almost the opposite. It's built around physical effort, energy, encouragement, laughter, and shared excitement.

They're two completely different environments of course, so, do you think the type of group you spend time in can affect the chances of creating attraction?

People often talk about running groups or exciting, even slightly risky, activities. The idea is that an elevated heart rate and strong emotions might become associated with the people around you, rather than just with the activity itself. This is what I've read somewhere about women. They would associate the emotions they feel in that moment with the guy they're experiencing with.

I've always found that fascinating.
Think about a personal trainer leading a class of ten people, five men and five women. He show leadership, but He also benefit from an environment that naturally involves physical interaction, high energy, and emotional engagement.
Now compare that to an artist leading a drawing group with the same number of people. The artist also demonstrates leadership, but the group's attention is directed toward concentration, creativity, and individual work.

The social and emotional dynamics are very different, and it seems much less common for the same kind of attraction to develop.

What do you think? Can the environment itself influence attraction?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BaronOfHair

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@jhonny9546 "What do you think? Can the environment itself influence attraction?"

Not a chance, no. Such a notion is more absurd than believing: "If I volunteer to be a gunman for The CJNG Cartel
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I'll never have to either blast someone's else skull open, nor fear being gunned down myself"
 
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I think there are two types of groups Men should spend time with, they are:

- An All Men Brotherhood fellowship group - hanging out and bonding with your Brothers in arms and sharing activities that fosters growth and healthy masculinity.

- Then your mixed gender group...bonding with platonic friendships with women in groups, old ladies for example, young or old etc.
 
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