"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Do you think the rise of young men as brothel customers is due to hypergamy?

MatureDJ

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:

https://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/07/...pain-for-sex-with-trafficked-prostitutes.html

La Jonquera used to be a quiet border town where truckers rested and the French came looking for a deal on hand-painted pottery and leather goods. But these days, prostitution is big business here, as it is elsewhere in Spain, where it is essentially legal.

In the past, most customers were middle-aged men. But the boom here, experts say, is powered in large part by the desires of young men — many of them traveling in packs for the weekend — taking advantage of Europe’s cheap and nearly seamless travel.

“The young used to go to discos,” said Francina Vila i Valls, Barcelona’s councilor for women and civil rights. “But now they go to brothels. It’s just another form of entertainment to them.”
my opinion: Young men used to go to discos because they used to have a decent shot at getting a woman, either as a 1NS or a girlfriend. Since women are hypergamous these days, they don't have a decent shot anymore, so they have decided to spend their time on the "sure thing".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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zekko

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my opinion: Young men used to go to discos because they used to have a decent shot at getting a woman, either as a 1NS or a girlfriend. Since women are hypergamous these days, they don't have a decent shot anymore, so they have decided to spend their time on the "sure thing".
Keeping in mind that I know nothing about Spain:
Women have always been hypergamous though. So if men suddenly are not getting a shot, there must be something else at play that is causing it.
Like the death of marriage and the birth of the hookup culture, or like Raiders says, online dating.
 

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Young men have been visiting brothels since time immemorial...

No big mystery why...
 
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