"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do you think the epidemic in peacetime "friendly fire" incidents is caused by soldiers' wives hypergamously dumping them?

MatureDJ

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:
my opinion: Although soldiers are de facto brave Alphas, their strict hierarchical regimen really Beta-tizes them - necessarily to the Commander, of course - but these men also carry that attitude over to their home life, where the "Commander" at home bosses them around almost as much as the guys with the stripes, bars, oak leaves & stars - thereby leaving that "Commander" not being as interested in them when they were dating a military man. And this, along with long deployments and moves (i.e., where the wife might stay back a while, etc.), gives these "Commanders" the ability to hypergamously upgrade without hindrance - and having the full weight of the thoroughly gynocentric military Office of Family (or whatever it's called) to tell the soldier to "man up" at home.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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