Men like OP are men I don't feel sorry for, it's easier to balme someone else due to your lack of success, then be brutally honest and self-aware to take actions on things you need to work on
It's long been documented that chicks who dyke it up(Via taking a lawn mower to their hair, covering every ounce of their flesh with tats, etc etc)are, quite liteally, enter at one's own risk. Dunno about the rest of you fellas, but I can't help but notice that large sections of The Manosphere have been mimicking The Woke Left's most virulent habits, for an unforgivably long time
Namely, Tsk Tsking over how f-cked up women are and how they need to do better, BEFORE we ourselves begin making moves, yet rarely uttering words to the effect of: "Women pretty much are what they are... Having recognized that, what are some practical ways we men can start increasing our own fortunes?"*
Same way the preferred pronoun using, I.X. Kendy worshipping whackadoodles among us trade almost exclusively in reciting the list of sh-t-y things folks classified as "White" have done throughout history/sometimes still perpetrate today, while almost never asking: "Great, fair-skinned folks of European ancestry can behave in heinous ways, just like every other demographic can. Now that we've acknowledged that fact, what are some concrete, tangible strategies we can pursue, in order to provide slum dwellers today with the tools necessary for them to help themselves?"
*By extension, more of us putting chicks on notice that we're working diligently on our game just may incentivize them(most of whom still desire men of their own)to do likewise