"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you think sexually frustrated men will become geriatric sex offenders?

MatureDJ

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I was reading about this horny old fart who likes to grab caretakers and fellow, female nursing home residents, and it got me thinking:

http://www.desmoinesregister.com/st...e-prison-assaulting-hospital-worker/92889618/

I will guess that this guy lived his whole live in deep sexual frustration, and now, finally in a position in which his victims can't fight him off, he is finally "getting action" in a very weird sort of way. With the explosion of such frustration today, I wonder how that will get when this current cohort gets to that stage of life.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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it says the guys was a sex offender......did you miss that? sexual offenders arent sexually frustrated in the traditional 'females arent responding to my game and I am not getting laid' type of way.....you know that, right?

I would surmise that the true evolution of his 'sexual frustration' (the reason he sexually offended people) had more to do with/was at the people that molested him when he was young and/or the traumatic events that took place in his life that led him to believe that it was okay to act out and victimize people sexually.

As well, I will take a second to print that people with dementia have a tendency to be sexually aggressive. Keep that in mind if you are ever faced with a loved one or friend who is failing in mental health and being sexually aggressive. It's a difficult thing to rationalize.
 

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This guy posts the weirdest fvcking threads. Cannot be coming from a sound mind.
 

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Society has skewed the profile of sexual offenders Would you rape someone because you haven't gotten any in a while? Being sexually frustrated is not an inclination to sexual assault. Sexual offenders are often predisposed to some sort of variable that stimulates the behavior i.e pedophila, psychosis, childhood abuse, etc.
 

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Society has skewed the profile of sexual offenders Would you rape someone because you haven't gotten any in a while? Being sexually frustrated is not an inclination to sexual assault. Sexual offenders are often predisposed to some sort of variable that stimulates the behavior i.e pedophila, psychosis, childhood abuse, etc.
I heartily disagree - although I can see the correlation you postulated, only in reverse: a man's psychological problems cause the tribe to withhold a bride from him, thus making it so that his genes live on only if he is a rapist. I think that rape is a viable evolutionary strategy for someone who otherwise would not be getting sex - IOW, the genes of such an incel would otherwise die out. Now of course today we have a society of laws that harshly penalize such behavior, but in an earlier time I could see roaming band sof incel bachelors going on the road and looking for a small group of people in which the men could be dispatched and the young females could be raped. Sexual frustration can be a very powerful motivator - consider how Muslim men can be cajoled into suicide by the promise of 72 virgins.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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@sazc is correct. From what I understand about sexual predation, it's all about control and has almost nothing to do with sex.
 

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I heartily disagree - although I can see the correlation you postulated, only in reverse: a man's psychological problems cause the tribe to withhold a bride from him, thus making it so that his genes live on only if he is a rapist. I think that rape is a viable evolutionary strategy for someone who otherwise would not be getting sex - IOW, the genes of such an incel would otherwise die out. Now of course today we have a society of laws that harshly penalize such behavior, but in an earlier time I could see roaming band sof incel bachelors going on the road and looking for a small group of people in which the men could be dispatched and the young females could be raped. Sexual frustration can be a very powerful motivator - consider how Muslim men can be cajoled into suicide by the promise of 72 virgins.
We are no longer cavemen. Your bride theory is weak. If we take this in contemplation of Muslim, etc, religion, then you can start to see that there was some heavily religious influence going on. That creates trauma. It also creates heavily conflict. Family? Self? Church? I'm not particularly motivated to go into detail about it atm but you need to go deeper than you presently are in order to REALLY understand what you are saying.

Start to understand how TRAUMA affects an individual....their choices, their path, etc.

Consider it this way, we can chat all we want about what it "must have been like" in IRAQ but there is no way ee we can understand it, def not enough to post about it, unless we lived it.

If used manipulatively, religion breeds trauma. Period
 

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@sazc is correct. From what I understand about sexual predation, it's all about control and has almost nothing to do with sex.
Most predators have serious trauma in their life. Not sure how many sexual predators were sexually molested, but I'm sure that number is high.

Don't forget the dementia aspect. When your loved ones get elderly, this may happen to you. Understand it occurs now so you are a bit prepared later
 
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Only if prostitution vanished or the sex industry evaporated. But that's not likely since from the beginning of time women wanted security and resources and men wanted to sink the bone in deep.
So a woman will always spread her legs for fiat currency.
 

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I was reading about this horny old fart who likes to grab caretakers and fellow, female nursing home residents, and it got me thinking:

http://www.desmoinesregister.com/st...e-prison-assaulting-hospital-worker/92889618/

I will guess that this guy lived his whole live in deep sexual frustration, and now, finally in a position in which his victims can't fight him off, he is finally "getting action" in a very weird sort of way. With the explosion of such frustration today, I wonder how that will get when this current cohort gets to that stage of life.
It's possible, but we can't predict it. All that accumulated steam needs to exit somehow though. If it isn't sexual misconduct, it'll probably be a vice.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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