"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Do you think saying your GF "is all mine" makes you look weak/clingy?

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randalljohnson said:
You may take objection to this, but she told me when we first started dating where she stands on cheating and how she doesn't tolerate it. I don't think she would ever physically cheat on me. Tell me I'm wrong, but she seemed pretty sincere about that.
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Google 'gaslighting.' People who'd never cheat don't typically have the need to vocalize it. Just like I never tell girls I meet, "Oh, don't worry, I'm not gonna rob & murder you. I'm super against people who do that sort of thing"--since that kind of thought wouldn't even be a part of my reality.

People of character never need to vocalize it. And people don't vocalize things they're not thinking of. By the same principle, when a girl say something like, "Ok, I'll come over, but we're not having sex," it means she's thinking of sex with you and it's much more likely to happen.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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randalljohnson said:
What if we both love eachother and both want the same things (commitment/stability.) Would that still detract her?
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To be honest, yes. While she won't be like "lol GOT EM" and then hop onto some bar boy's FAT ROD, she will be less willing to go out of her way for you. Commitment/Stability might become a "nice side project" once she no longer fears that you can leave whenever you want. She will crave other men and longingly wish she could have a night with them, and if you let her feel too secure she will attempt to test boundaries. See how close to the forbidden fruit she can get.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJ101 - you are the prize, not her!

This comment says she is the prize... capische?
 
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On a scale from 1 to 10 I will rate this as a 10 on level of insecurity.

You are basically trying to put a an ownership sign on her social media.

The only moment when you are allowed to say to a woman that she is yours is in the bedroom after you've f***ed her brains out.
 
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Duuuuude hahaha. I actually said "you're all mine now!" to a girl in a flirty way as we had secks about 4 years ago. She told me it was creepy. After we finished and I dropped her off, she wanted to be left at the Starbucks instead of her apartment. I scared the chick haha.
 
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Masculinity said:
Duuuuude hahaha. I actually said "you're all mine now!" to a girl in a flirty way as we had secks about 4 years ago. She told me it was creepy. After we finished and I dropped her off, she wanted to be left at the Starbucks instead of her apartment. I scared the chick haha.
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Lol wow. I meant it in a playful way so hopefully she doesn't see it as me being weak
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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