"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Do you think saying your GF "is all mine" makes you look weak/clingy?

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randalljohnson said:
You may take objection to this, but she told me when we first started dating where she stands on cheating and how she doesn't tolerate it. I don't think she would ever physically cheat on me. Tell me I'm wrong, but she seemed pretty sincere about that.
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Google 'gaslighting.' People who'd never cheat don't typically have the need to vocalize it. Just like I never tell girls I meet, "Oh, don't worry, I'm not gonna rob & murder you. I'm super against people who do that sort of thing"--since that kind of thought wouldn't even be a part of my reality.

People of character never need to vocalize it. And people don't vocalize things they're not thinking of. By the same principle, when a girl say something like, "Ok, I'll come over, but we're not having sex," it means she's thinking of sex with you and it's much more likely to happen.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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randalljohnson said:
What if we both love eachother and both want the same things (commitment/stability.) Would that still detract her?
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To be honest, yes. While she won't be like "lol GOT EM" and then hop onto some bar boy's FAT ROD, she will be less willing to go out of her way for you. Commitment/Stability might become a "nice side project" once she no longer fears that you can leave whenever you want. She will crave other men and longingly wish she could have a night with them, and if you let her feel too secure she will attempt to test boundaries. See how close to the forbidden fruit she can get.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DJ101 - you are the prize, not her!

This comment says she is the prize... capische?
 
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On a scale from 1 to 10 I will rate this as a 10 on level of insecurity.

You are basically trying to put a an ownership sign on her social media.

The only moment when you are allowed to say to a woman that she is yours is in the bedroom after you've f***ed her brains out.
 
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Duuuuude hahaha. I actually said "you're all mine now!" to a girl in a flirty way as we had secks about 4 years ago. She told me it was creepy. After we finished and I dropped her off, she wanted to be left at the Starbucks instead of her apartment. I scared the chick haha.
 
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Masculinity said:
Duuuuude hahaha. I actually said "you're all mine now!" to a girl in a flirty way as we had secks about 4 years ago. She told me it was creepy. After we finished and I dropped her off, she wanted to be left at the Starbucks instead of her apartment. I scared the chick haha.
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Lol wow. I meant it in a playful way so hopefully she doesn't see it as me being weak
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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