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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do you think Neil Armstrong's wife divorced him because going to the Moon wasn't exciting enough?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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This is a case that shows that breakups aren't always caused by hypergamy. In the '60s, astronauts had fame on the level of rock stars. That diminished in the coming decades, but Armstrong still remained a legend. She wasn't going to be moving up in status by divorcing him.
Sometimes relationships just run their course. They were married for 38 years. That's a long time to be with the same person.
This also shows that there's never a point where you can say "Well, we've been together this long, I guess we've got it beat now".
Sometimes relationships just run their course. They were married for 38 years. That's a long time to be with the same person.
This also shows that there's never a point where you can say "Well, we've been together this long, I guess we've got it beat now".
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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38 years of marriage.... There was a book on Neil Armstrong life.. It mentionned they drifted appart cause Armstrong was always doing something and going somewhere and we'll the wife got tired of it especially since she wanted to focus on "her" project. Neil wife was a piooner in the self-made women by setting up "wife organization" and "sport team" etc.. She must have been quite independant.
When people are "too busy" with their projects and they both have an understanding. I guess they can go on together for 38 years.
Where the break up happens is when: One decide to keep running and the other one to settle down.
Neil Armstrong in the book was starting to plan "stuff" without his wife. According to Wikipedia, he meet his 2nd wife at a Golf Course Fundraiser: 2 years before his divorce.
The next wife was a quiet one, he called her up and showed up at her door 30minuters later to help her setup the house (renovation stuff). They were married the following year until his death.
Quite Alpha guy lol.
I've seen it around me alot has I work in finance. Couples that have been together for 30-40 years, married with kid. As they get around 60 years old... Divorce strike. The man leave the wife for a 30 year younger woman, like the man trying to "catch up time" or "rewrite history" . They usually financially independant couple and even cases where the woman ALOT richer.
In recent memories, A Canadian couple.. They are Olympic ice-skaters for Canada. They are around 30 years old, they meet at 14-16 and dating since.
They broke up after 12-15 years together. Why?
Well the woman Olympic career was going to a deadend (no where in terms of medals) and she missed her sport exit. She's 30 years old and want to stop her Olympic career and makes babies.
The boyfriend/husband, he's a the TOP of his sport. He's "old" for a Olympic athlete but he keeps getting better better and won like 4 gold medals making Olympic and National Sport history. He said: I am not gonna stop the Olympic and not ready for kids... they parted ways on "good term" .
In all these cases, you have people "going in different ways across time" and they can't reconcile their differences.
However, you can't know that until you made it once
When people are "too busy" with their projects and they both have an understanding. I guess they can go on together for 38 years.
Where the break up happens is when: One decide to keep running and the other one to settle down.
Neil Armstrong in the book was starting to plan "stuff" without his wife. According to Wikipedia, he meet his 2nd wife at a Golf Course Fundraiser: 2 years before his divorce.
The next wife was a quiet one, he called her up and showed up at her door 30minuters later to help her setup the house (renovation stuff). They were married the following year until his death.
Quite Alpha guy lol.
I've seen it around me alot has I work in finance. Couples that have been together for 30-40 years, married with kid. As they get around 60 years old... Divorce strike. The man leave the wife for a 30 year younger woman, like the man trying to "catch up time" or "rewrite history" . They usually financially independant couple and even cases where the woman ALOT richer.
In recent memories, A Canadian couple.. They are Olympic ice-skaters for Canada. They are around 30 years old, they meet at 14-16 and dating since.
They broke up after 12-15 years together. Why?
Well the woman Olympic career was going to a deadend (no where in terms of medals) and she missed her sport exit. She's 30 years old and want to stop her Olympic career and makes babies.
The boyfriend/husband, he's a the TOP of his sport. He's "old" for a Olympic athlete but he keeps getting better better and won like 4 gold medals making Olympic and National Sport history. He said: I am not gonna stop the Olympic and not ready for kids... they parted ways on "good term" .
In all these cases, you have people "going in different ways across time" and they can't reconcile their differences.
LOL yeah.
However, you can't know that until you made it once
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I think one the reasons why wifey #2 was so stable was that she looked upon him as the hero he was, and just being "wife" to him was exciting enough for her life; there is no need to play game, etc. when with a woman that adores you - which is is what are SUPPOSED to be doing for all men.
Wifey #1 just married an aerospace engineer that happened to have an historic career.Mike32ct
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Lay Report - A field report that includes mention of a full close (ie having sex).
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Because of my height, I get very few amateur lays, and I don't think I should mention the lays I get from "women in the business".
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.