I did in the past (August 2012) and she accepted. The engagement was called off Nov 18, 2012 because we got cold feet after my mother spoke to her ex husband and pastor who married them and we started emailing.each other about her. Kaboom. An email attempt was made to reach out to her in 2016 but she did not reply back. (I found out she was in New Zealand through the same online dating site we met so I figure it wont matter emailing her if she is on the other side of the planet).
There is the other aspect I may like being with her in 2012, on the level I like a good movie. There was a certain spell or magic about the whole circumstance of that year that I felt fuelled everything. (I started bike riding in 2009 and learned some trails and led me to knowing unique parts of the city. As long as she was willing to ride with me that is a big fuel. I was interested in visiting the church she was part of before we met). Its like one of those times the stars just aligned and everything worked.
I cant see a repeat of that happening if I met her from scratch at this point. All the bike trails are stale as 11 years have now passed, I am more in my own little world, parents are way older and clingy, to name a few issues.
There is good nostalgia about that time. Allot of things I think were overdue but fulfilled with her and she hit all the right notes.
hmmm, sounds like wonderful memories. You have a mature frame in evaluating this.
I did try redating former boyfriends and its definitely a different kind of magic, but it is still there.
It just becomes new memories with an old trusted confidante.
Even the chemistry is different. They smell different even, lol.
But the soul or whatever connection is still there.
It was fascinating and very worth it to redate.
Did the new times feel 'natural'?
Not so much. And that became particularly bittersweet.
But the enthusiasm to reconnect and achieve recognition in your kindred spirit once more was so worth the attempts.
