Master Don Juan
- Apr 30, 2006
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I was reading this, and it got me interested:
More than 40% of Americans say they've hidden some kind of financial decision from their partners. Even if the dollar amount is small, the emotional impact can be huge.
A few weeks before our wedding, Erik came home from work, cuddled up to me on the couch and sighed heavily. “A coworker’s wife dropped a financial bomb on him today,” he said.
“Oh really?” I suddenly could not swallow.
“She had five thousand dollars’ worth of credit card debt she’d kept secret from him. He thought they were debt free.”
“I have some credit card debt too,” I said, my voice a shiver.
My fiancé pulled back and away. “What? How much?”My voice had clamped down to a choked stream. “I don’t know, but I think it’s … more … than five thousand.”
“How much more?” His voice was tight, controlled.
“Maybe … twice that?”
“Ten thousand dollars?” His usually tender expression had evaporated, smile crimped into a grimace. “Why don’t you know how much?”
When I met Erik, him only eight months returned from the Peace Corps in the Czech Republic, he owned exactly one sleeping palette, a trunk that doubled as a dresser, a desk, an old Royal typewriter, and one shelf of books. Minimalist was an understatement. He balanced his checkbook every month in neatly printed ink and paid off his credit card at the end of every month if he used it at all.
my opinion: I wonder when wifey becomes ex-wifey, she will tell the judge that he needs to come out ahead in the divorce to make up for his FinanceCucking beforehand.The week before our wedding, we met with the woman who would marry us, the abbott of a Zen Buddhist center in Marin County.
When we revealed our plan to withhold legal marriage, she suggested, “You’re in it together, no matter how Jordan pays off her debt. I’d just like to point that out.” My soon-to-be husband took my hand across her table and exhaled shaky breaths.