You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Agree brother regardless of my initial reactions.
Yeah, I was going to say at least she didn't get fat. One thing I notice though, is that older women who stay thin tend to get more wrinkles than the ones who fatten up a bit. I do appreciate that she didn't go the plastic surgery route.
It's due to the elasticity and lack of collagen. Fat women tend to have more fat cells and collagen production so less wrinkles. Vitamin K helps with that and some take collagen supplements so a skinny gal can prevent wrinkles but she may have to take supplements to do it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
No sh1t Sam, would you invest long term in that woman if you were close to her age?
Im not an antropologist but I believe nature pushes men and women to each other once they are capable of reproducing which is why men are stunned from their libido and women are decent looking in their 20s...I dont know about you but personally since my early 30s my libido and tolerance for bullsh1t is falling down as fast and my same age women looks.
Many times I've thought that having kids, falling in love, getting married, and that sort of thing requires a certain amount of naivety. That sounds like I'm knocking it, but I'm not. As you say, there's a reason nature pushes us toward this at a certain age.
