"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'd pull this with an older woman, and I know you don't have someone else tell the girl for you (shows you got no balls!)

Is it cool to tell a girl you got a crush on her? Is it not cool? Why?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Never ever be the first to tell a woman you like her, love her, or crush on her. Always let the woman ask where the relationship is going. If you do it, you will only portray yourself as needy. If anyone is going to become the needy one, it can't be you.

Make sure you are thinking with your mind and not your emotions because those emotions will ignore red flags and forget everything that is logical.
 

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Oh my god!!! This is sooooooooooooooo high school. Seriously!!!!!
 

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You don't have to 'say' anything, girls can read your interest a mile away. If you want to communicate your attraction, do it by your actions/vibe...but don't be a wimp about it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Bible_Belt said:
Vocalizing your feelings for her is always a bad idea. It makes you boring, predictable, and AFC.
Have you ever said somethin like "I'm diggin you girl" or "I feel a connection between us"
 

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heh dont do it.
An acquaintance once told me about the shortest RL she had with a friend of mine. They got together somehow and she was feeling weird, that after the first day of RL he said to her: I Love you.

Well we were all about 16 but that impression of her, dumping my friend just because he told her I Love You stuck with me.
 

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BeyondCharm said:
Have you ever said somethin like "I'm diggin you girl" or "I feel a connection between us"
That's sh*t I wouldn't touch with a 93 foot pole. If you use these lines, you should be smacked with a 93 foot pole.

Nowadays, I just go with the flow and look for subtle hints.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Gangster Of Love said:
Oh my god!!! This is sooooooooooooooo high school. Seriously!!!!!
There's people that are in their 30s saying this kind of crap. It don't always work.
 

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crushes are for children. seriously. remove that word (and that mindset) from your vocab.
 

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Telling a girl that you have a crush on her is only a good idea if you absolutely know that the girl likes you. In all other cases do not do it.

As for crushes themselves, they are called oneitis here. Only guys who have a lack of options get crushes on girls.
 

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Maxtro said:
Telling a girl that you have a crush on her is only a good idea if you absolutely know that the girl likes you. In all other cases do not do it.

As for crushes themselves, they are called oneitis here. Only guys who have a lack of options get crushes on girls.
Best answer I've found. I'll always keep this in mind Maxtro!
 

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You don't need any more advice. I've told you all you need to know.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mavrick said:
You don't need any more advice. I've told you all you need to know.
And I'll keep your answer in mind in case I ever think of pulling that sh*t with a chick! I appreciate ya'll who helped me out! And the Maverics beat the Hornets by 10 last night!
 

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I do not have a lack of options, but there is this ONE girl who I think is absolutely amazing. Shes smart, gorgeous, is NOT a skank. I think she likes me but I dont really know. I dont have oneitis, but would love to get her alone one-on-one.

Honestly if I really wanted to, I could go out every week and bring a different girl home, but that is not a challenge. I want a challenge, someone who will actually make me work for their attention.
 
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Maxtro said:
As for crushes themselves, they are called oneitis here. Only guys who have a lack of options get crushes on girls.
I don't think so. For me this is an anomalous occurance that happens once in a couple to three years, but I normally don't feel crushes with most girls I cross paths with, and yet I'd consider myself to have a lack of options.
 

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Mavrick said:
You don't need any more advice. I've told you all you need to know.
Actually, I think that Maxtro’s advice was better.

Maxtro said:
Telling a girl that you have a crush on her is only a good idea if you absolutely know that the girl likes you. In all other cases do not do it.
 
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