"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Do you think it's right to tell a girl you have a crush on her?

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I'd pull this with an older woman, and I know you don't have someone else tell the girl for you (shows you got no balls!)

Is it cool to tell a girl you got a crush on her? Is it not cool? Why?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Never ever be the first to tell a woman you like her, love her, or crush on her. Always let the woman ask where the relationship is going. If you do it, you will only portray yourself as needy. If anyone is going to become the needy one, it can't be you.

Make sure you are thinking with your mind and not your emotions because those emotions will ignore red flags and forget everything that is logical.
 

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Oh my god!!! This is sooooooooooooooo high school. Seriously!!!!!
 

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You don't have to 'say' anything, girls can read your interest a mile away. If you want to communicate your attraction, do it by your actions/vibe...but don't be a wimp about it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bible_Belt said:
Vocalizing your feelings for her is always a bad idea. It makes you boring, predictable, and AFC.
Have you ever said somethin like "I'm diggin you girl" or "I feel a connection between us"
 

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heh dont do it.
An acquaintance once told me about the shortest RL she had with a friend of mine. They got together somehow and she was feeling weird, that after the first day of RL he said to her: I Love you.

Well we were all about 16 but that impression of her, dumping my friend just because he told her I Love You stuck with me.
 

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BeyondCharm said:
Have you ever said somethin like "I'm diggin you girl" or "I feel a connection between us"
That's sh*t I wouldn't touch with a 93 foot pole. If you use these lines, you should be smacked with a 93 foot pole.

Nowadays, I just go with the flow and look for subtle hints.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Gangster Of Love said:
Oh my god!!! This is sooooooooooooooo high school. Seriously!!!!!
There's people that are in their 30s saying this kind of crap. It don't always work.
 

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crushes are for children. seriously. remove that word (and that mindset) from your vocab.
 

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Telling a girl that you have a crush on her is only a good idea if you absolutely know that the girl likes you. In all other cases do not do it.

As for crushes themselves, they are called oneitis here. Only guys who have a lack of options get crushes on girls.
 

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Maxtro said:
Telling a girl that you have a crush on her is only a good idea if you absolutely know that the girl likes you. In all other cases do not do it.

As for crushes themselves, they are called oneitis here. Only guys who have a lack of options get crushes on girls.
Best answer I've found. I'll always keep this in mind Maxtro!
 

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You don't need any more advice. I've told you all you need to know.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mavrick said:
You don't need any more advice. I've told you all you need to know.
And I'll keep your answer in mind in case I ever think of pulling that sh*t with a chick! I appreciate ya'll who helped me out! And the Maverics beat the Hornets by 10 last night!
 

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I do not have a lack of options, but there is this ONE girl who I think is absolutely amazing. Shes smart, gorgeous, is NOT a skank. I think she likes me but I dont really know. I dont have oneitis, but would love to get her alone one-on-one.

Honestly if I really wanted to, I could go out every week and bring a different girl home, but that is not a challenge. I want a challenge, someone who will actually make me work for their attention.
 
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Maxtro said:
As for crushes themselves, they are called oneitis here. Only guys who have a lack of options get crushes on girls.
I don't think so. For me this is an anomalous occurance that happens once in a couple to three years, but I normally don't feel crushes with most girls I cross paths with, and yet I'd consider myself to have a lack of options.
 

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Mavrick said:
You don't need any more advice. I've told you all you need to know.
Actually, I think that Maxtro’s advice was better.

Maxtro said:
Telling a girl that you have a crush on her is only a good idea if you absolutely know that the girl likes you. In all other cases do not do it.
 
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