"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Do you think hypergamy is causing young men to attend more socializing events?

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I was reading about this young man who attended an event that was evidently advertised as a path to sexual interaction, and it got me interested:

http://www.bostonherald.com/news/local_coverage/2018/09/peabody_man_dies_after_fall_from_party_boat

An end-of-summer celebration on Boston Harbor turned tragic for a young Peabody man when he plummeted to his death from a “Get Lei’D At Sea” cruise Saturday night, triggering a frantic search by air and sea to find him in the pitch darkness.
my opinion: It seems that in a simpler time, men didn't have to attend such events, as such men used to be bombarded by offers to ask out Mary Jane Rottencrotch. Now, it seems that men aren't served up these dating opportunities, and therefore have to go to socializing events - that evidently prey on the sexual frustration of such men - to get such dating opportunities.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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In the 1940's-50's in good ole Midwest USA, my grandparents and great uncles all attended organized dances that served as social events so young men and women could meet/interact. School dances used to be a big thing as well. Seems to me the social functions have just changed, men have had to pursue women since the beginning of time, its just that they have so many options these days that men probably don't have it as easy as they once did.
 

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He didn't die because he was attending a social gathering...

He died because he was an idiot.
 

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I dont think the average man under 30s would attentd expensive overcrowded place if it wasnt for the fact that he thinks he has a shot with women there.

Once most of them wise up or their libido drop somehow they all disappear from the socializing scene...guess why there are no single parties over 40 or if there are no more than 10% of people attending are males.

I guess its a mix of wising up,m lower libido and lower attractivness of women attending.

So yeah I believe the socializing bubble is due to the current state of modern dating.

Too bad nobody tells the average man that there is no partecipation prize in such race and that the winner already won even before the event.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I dont think the average man under 30s would attentd expensive overcrowded place if it wasnt for the fact that he thinks he has a shot with women there.

Once most of them wise up or their libido drop somehow they all disappear from the socializing scene...guess why there are no single parties over 40 or if there are no more than 10% of people attending are males.

I guess its a mix of wising up,m lower libido and lower attractivness of women attending.
I think it's the lower level of attractiveness. Men will spend a lot of money on expensive clubbing because there is the chance of meeting a few of the hotties, but if there are no hotties around, men will not even go for free (they might go for free beer, LOL).
 

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I think it's the lower level of attractiveness. Men will spend a lot of money on expensive clubbing because there is the chance of meeting a few of the hotties, but if there are no hotties around, men will not even go for free (they might go for free beer, LOL).
Totally agree, that principle is self explanatory.
 

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I dont think the average man under 30s would attentd expensive overcrowded place if it wasnt for the fact that he thinks he has a shot with women there.

Once most of them wise up or their libido drop somehow they all disappear from the socializing scene...guess why there are no single parties over 40 or if there are no more than 10% of people attending are males.

I guess its a mix of wising up,m lower libido and lower attractivness of women attending.

So yeah I believe the socializing bubble is due to the current state of modern dating.

Too bad nobody tells the average man that there is no partecipation prize in such race and that the winner already won even before the event.
Nice guys don't finish last, they don't even qualify for the race!

These events are just like job interviews. Second place is first loser.

Of course they don't tell the average guy these events wind up being sausagefests, and the women there are all looking for Chad, Tyrone, Antonio, Hiroshi, Punji, Vladimir, and Fabio.

And the women that go there only want these guys, and complain when they can't get them!
 
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