"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Do you take flaking from a female personally?

Do you take flaking from a female as personal?

  • Yes, of course. How more peronal can you get?

    Votes: 3 15.8%
  • Depends on the severity of the flake--some are excusable.

    Votes: 10 52.6%
  • No, everythings fair in love,war and seduction.

    Votes: 6 31.6%

  • Total voters
    19
  • Poll closed .

white sox bill

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Since I've been getting more flakes than Tony the Tiger and his frosted flakes, I thought I'd see what you guys think. I voted no. I have seen some flakes through this process, I play thier silly game back at them, turn the tables and down the road, sleep w/them
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Instead of wondering if it's personal, consider what attracts you to women who flake.
 

Phyzzle

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Yeah, I admit I let it get to me.

What attractive women don't understand is that other people (who are not attractive women) have jobs. I mean real jobs. Involving actual work.

I don't know about you guys, but there aren't any days where I'm planning to watch paint dry. ANY plan made with a chick involves delaying something else, or working hard to get things done in advance.

I remember getting the # of this one chick who after meeting her in some redneck bar. When I called, she said something like, "I think I'll be busy for the indefinite future."

And that was it. No need to flake. It's that easy folks.

So, is this girl actually smarter than every other female I've ever encontered in my entire life? Well, actually, yeah, she is. At some point, she realized that people have thing to do (herself included), and that those extra seven seconds of ego-rush she might get from hearing some dissapointment in my voice probably isn't worth the effort of sitting around with an egg timer, for the exact minute she's agreed to show, then calling to flake. (And yes, many women do exactly that.)
 

STR8UP

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It's easy to let it get under your skin. In my younger days I took it REAL personal. Now that I understand WHY women do a lot of the things they do....not so much so.
 

FM 3321

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Yeah I tend to take it personally. I start to think "why do I want to continue interacting with a girl that doesn't care about flaking on me?" Maybe it's immature but that's what I think today.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Bonhomme

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Depends on various factors and what (if anything) she does to remedy the situation.

Strange as this may sound, flaking is sometimes a natural consequence of very good macking skills. You get a woman interested in you who would not otherwise have any interest whatsoever. When she has a moment to think about it, she's gone.
 

blueguy

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STR8UP said:
It's easy to let it get under your skin. In my younger days I took it REAL personal. Now that I understand WHY women do a lot of the things they do....not so much so.
I can come from this perspective. I don't or try not to take anything personally with the understanding of how people work and why they do things.
 

lookyoung

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No, I don't take it personally at all. A true DJ knows that flaking is part of the game. I think taking flaking personally is an AFC trait. Remember fellas always be cool, calm and collective.
 
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