"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do you subscribe to an explicit code of ethics?

SrDedosRapidos

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If so, what is it and why do you (try to) adhere to it?

I try and follow the Objectivist ethics of rational self-interest. I hold that sacrafice is inherently evil. Good is the exact opposite; self-preservation and cultivation. I believe self-esteem is extremely important and must develop from achievement and hard work. I seek to surround myself with individuals who value their lives and are constantly trying to improve them. I despise mental-vampires and those who feed on the failure of others.

As far as what this implies on my love life, it makes quality women hard to come by. They all seem so gatdam fake. Most attractive women seem to validly think every man they meet is going to value them soley for their looks so they haven't done any work on their personality (and it is no secret as to why). Most women I meet are boring and predictable. While some men seek to make hot women qualify themselves just to sleep with them, I validly take no interest in any woman that doesn't qualify. I do not waste my time with ignorant sluts.

I like Objectivist ethics because they serve me well. Life is about making yourself happy through achievement and sharing yourself with people who do not need you to be happy.

I'm also finding Aristotle's Niccomachean Ethics to be an interesting read.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SrDedosRapidos said:
If so, what is it and why do you (try to) adhere to it?

I try and follow the Objectivist ethics of rational self-interest. I hold that sacrafice is inherently evil. Good is the exact opposite; self-preservation and cultivation. I believe self-esteem is extremely important and must develop from achievement and hard work. I seek to surround myself with individuals who value their lives and are constantly trying to improve them. I despise mental-vampires and those who feed on the failure of others.

As far as what this implies on my love life, it makes quality women hard to come by. They all seem so gatdam fake. Most attractive women seem to validly think every man they meet is going to value them soley for their looks so they haven't done any work on their personality (and it is no secret as to why). Most women I meet are boring and predictable. While some men seek to make hot women qualify themselves just to sleep with them, I validly take no interest in any woman that doesn't qualify. I do not waste my time with ignorant sluts.

I like Objectivist ethics because they serve me well. Life is about making yourself happy through achievement and sharing yourself with people who do not need you to be happy.

I'm also finding Aristotle's Niccomachean Ethics to be an interesting read.
Are you still in college? If so, take a class on morality - it will be an eye-opener.

My Berkeley prof totally obliterated your beloved "Objectivism."
 

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Are you still in college? If so, take a class on morality - it will be an eye-opener.

My Berkeley prof totally obliterated your beloved "Objectivism."
Where exactly did I ask your opinion or your beloved berkley professor's opinion on Objectivism? I didn't. I asked if you adhered to any explicit moral code. I am well aware of main-stream academia's rejection of Rand's ideas. Not trying to be a snide little bastard, but you are wasting your time trying to tell me what's wrong with Objectivism. I have heard it all.

Since you took a class on morality at Berkley, I hope you have more to contribute.
 

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SrDedosRapidos said:
Where exactly did I ask your opinion or your beloved berkley professor's opinion on Objectivism? I didn't. I asked if you adhered to any explicit moral code. I am well aware of main-stream academia's rejection of Rand's ideas. Not trying to be a snide little bastard, but you are wasting your time trying to tell me what's wrong with Objectivism. I have heard it all.

Since you took a class on morality at Berkley, I hope you have more to contribute.
If you have "heard it all" and yet you still believe in Objectivism, you can hardly be considered objective.
 

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Yes....my own.

I wrote down what kind of man i wana be and what i stand for, and avery once in a while when i'm in a tough place i read it as a reminder.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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When it comes to women these are your choices: Hot, Interesting, Mentally Stable. Pick Two.

as for a code. Yes. I have a code for friends and family and one for everyone else. Friends can become everyone else, family cannot. My code for my inner circle is based off the golden rule, for the outer circle, the law of the jungle.
 
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