"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do you subscribe to an explicit code of ethics?

SrDedosRapidos

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If so, what is it and why do you (try to) adhere to it?

I try and follow the Objectivist ethics of rational self-interest. I hold that sacrafice is inherently evil. Good is the exact opposite; self-preservation and cultivation. I believe self-esteem is extremely important and must develop from achievement and hard work. I seek to surround myself with individuals who value their lives and are constantly trying to improve them. I despise mental-vampires and those who feed on the failure of others.

As far as what this implies on my love life, it makes quality women hard to come by. They all seem so gatdam fake. Most attractive women seem to validly think every man they meet is going to value them soley for their looks so they haven't done any work on their personality (and it is no secret as to why). Most women I meet are boring and predictable. While some men seek to make hot women qualify themselves just to sleep with them, I validly take no interest in any woman that doesn't qualify. I do not waste my time with ignorant sluts.

I like Objectivist ethics because they serve me well. Life is about making yourself happy through achievement and sharing yourself with people who do not need you to be happy.

I'm also finding Aristotle's Niccomachean Ethics to be an interesting read.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SrDedosRapidos said:
If so, what is it and why do you (try to) adhere to it?

I try and follow the Objectivist ethics of rational self-interest. I hold that sacrafice is inherently evil. Good is the exact opposite; self-preservation and cultivation. I believe self-esteem is extremely important and must develop from achievement and hard work. I seek to surround myself with individuals who value their lives and are constantly trying to improve them. I despise mental-vampires and those who feed on the failure of others.

As far as what this implies on my love life, it makes quality women hard to come by. They all seem so gatdam fake. Most attractive women seem to validly think every man they meet is going to value them soley for their looks so they haven't done any work on their personality (and it is no secret as to why). Most women I meet are boring and predictable. While some men seek to make hot women qualify themselves just to sleep with them, I validly take no interest in any woman that doesn't qualify. I do not waste my time with ignorant sluts.

I like Objectivist ethics because they serve me well. Life is about making yourself happy through achievement and sharing yourself with people who do not need you to be happy.

I'm also finding Aristotle's Niccomachean Ethics to be an interesting read.
Are you still in college? If so, take a class on morality - it will be an eye-opener.

My Berkeley prof totally obliterated your beloved "Objectivism."
 

SrDedosRapidos

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Are you still in college? If so, take a class on morality - it will be an eye-opener.

My Berkeley prof totally obliterated your beloved "Objectivism."
Where exactly did I ask your opinion or your beloved berkley professor's opinion on Objectivism? I didn't. I asked if you adhered to any explicit moral code. I am well aware of main-stream academia's rejection of Rand's ideas. Not trying to be a snide little bastard, but you are wasting your time trying to tell me what's wrong with Objectivism. I have heard it all.

Since you took a class on morality at Berkley, I hope you have more to contribute.
 

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SrDedosRapidos said:
Where exactly did I ask your opinion or your beloved berkley professor's opinion on Objectivism? I didn't. I asked if you adhered to any explicit moral code. I am well aware of main-stream academia's rejection of Rand's ideas. Not trying to be a snide little bastard, but you are wasting your time trying to tell me what's wrong with Objectivism. I have heard it all.

Since you took a class on morality at Berkley, I hope you have more to contribute.
If you have "heard it all" and yet you still believe in Objectivism, you can hardly be considered objective.
 

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Yes....my own.

I wrote down what kind of man i wana be and what i stand for, and avery once in a while when i'm in a tough place i read it as a reminder.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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When it comes to women these are your choices: Hot, Interesting, Mentally Stable. Pick Two.

as for a code. Yes. I have a code for friends and family and one for everyone else. Friends can become everyone else, family cannot. My code for my inner circle is based off the golden rule, for the outer circle, the law of the jungle.
 
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